April, I started communicating with a man about 2 1/2 yrs ago. We went to the same high school, but didnt know each other. He friend requested me on facebook and because we had many mutual friends from high school, I accepted. He was living overseas and said he took a job there because his 11 yr marriage was on the rocks and he wanted to create some space between them. Our conversations were innocent at first, then after several months of just chatting, we started conversing by phone and grew quite fond of each other. He told me that when he got back to the states, he was going to initiate a separation and start divorce proceedings. He flew back to the states a few times and we met and had an incredible connection. Bottom line, we fell in love. After about 9 months, he moved back to the states and immediately took a job about 3 hours from where his wife was living and bought a home there. Four months after moving back, he told her that he wanted a divorce.
We get along so well, I truly love him. He has been very good to me. He is always sweet and kind, and has never treated me badly. He travels a lot for work, so I only get to see him about 5-7 days out of the month. I have never met any of his family or friends, nor do they even know I exist. He says he cannot wait for them to meet me, and that he wants to move here part time and move me to where he lives for part time. I have given him ultimatums, and he swore that he is working on getting a divorce, but he needed to sort through the separation of assets first. To me, it seemed liked there was always an excuse as to why nothing was going forward. He is rarely home because of his job, so he said it is difficult for him to sort things out when he is out of the country. Fast forward 1 year and 6 months later since he told his wife that he wanted a divorce, and I told him that I wanted out because he was never going to make a move and I was still his dirty little secret. But again, I am still hanging around. He actually went to see an attorney 2 weeks ago. He didn’t retain him but decided to try and do some mediation with his wife on separation of assets as per his attorney’s request. Blah, Blah, Blah! I love this man with all of my heart. I have however lost some respect for him, and for myself for putting myself in this situation. Just typing this, it seems really obvious to me. I don’t talk about details to friends or family because I am ashamed, so I am asking you to give me some insight….maybe even slap me around a little?
Thank you in advance…..Be honest, be brutal…I can take it!
