[secretquestion315]

I’ve been hooking up with an old friend for the last couple of months. In the years that I’ve known him, he has never had a girlfriend. He has always been the one night stand kind of guy. When we first started hooking up, he made me feel special. He would kiss me and hold my hand. He even took me and my daughter trick or treating. When I asked him if he liked me, he pretty much told me he wont say yes, but he wont say no either. Then the next day, he told me we shouldn’t talk anymore. Sure enough, two days later we run into each other. And when he saw me, he got excited, came home with me, and it started all over again. He would come by at least once a week. The kissing slowed down and we don’t walk down the street hand in hand, but he always wants me to snuggle up to him when we watch movies and he tells me that he hasn’t been this way with a girl since his last girlfriend almost ten years ago. And we would have these romantic moments that I felt had to mean something to him just as much as me. But it seems like whenever I bring up anything to do with his feelings for me, he stops talking to me. He always comes back once he gets sometime alone but he makes me so confused. He introduced me to his mom. He is so sweet to my daughter, even bought her a little toy for Christmas. I feel like if I didn’t mean anything to him, he wouldn’t do these kinds of things. But if I ask him about how he feels, he gets uncomfortable and wont admit to anything. Does he have feelings for me and what should I do??? I like him so much. I just hate not knowing!

[Taven03]

It sounds like a fifty fifty split to me. He might just want to be friends with benefits… But the last part of your message makes me think he might be developing feelings for you. The hard part about this type of thing is what type of guy is he. In the beginning in seems like he just wants to be friends with benefits but seeing his mom and hanging out with you and your daughter hints at something more.

I know I am not April but I am bored. Lol

[secretquestion315]

@taven03 he is the kind of man who loves and needs his freedom. he doesn’t like to be tied down. and honestly im not looking to jump into a relationship either. I just want to know if he likes me so that I know im not just wasting my time. I don’t want to get hurt by someone who can care less about me. And I feel like he has to feel something with me. If he didn’t, he would have stuck around so long. But who knows.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’ve only been with him for two months — way too early to discuss feelings, even if you were dating. And the fact that he told you he doesn’t want to discuss this should be your warning sign that this isn’t a guy who wants a commitment. Hooking up doesn’t really lend itself to discussing whether or not he likes you…. that’s what dating is for. 😉 When you hook up, you forgo that option — even though many women think that the hook up means more than it does. So if you truly don’t want to get hurt, then the best thing for you to do is date — not hook up. The latter tends to lead to hurt feelings, especially since your daughter is involved. 😕

I hope that helps. Let me know if you have any more questions.

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