[heartbroken]

Hello April,

Recently my girlfriend broke up with me because she was unhappy that I would not give her as much affection as I do with her daughter (6yrs). It seems a bit selfish to. She hates that I don’t kiss her in front of my parents, which I find disrespectful. We have been together for 3 years.
We have been broken up since Oct 30th. She tells me that she no longer is in love with me and that the spark is not there. But right before thanksgiving she texts me to come over for sex and that to not take it a different way and that it didnt mean we were getting back. So I go over and afterwards I tell her I still want to work things out because i still love her. She tells me that the feelings wont come back. During Thanksgiviving I took care of her dog and cat while she visited her sister. When she gets back she deleted me off of facebook.
She then texted me last wednesday to come over for sex but since I had my phone off, i didnt get the message. She had texted me at least 5 times, even in the morning. I tell her I’d love to come over the next day to see her and her daughter and I do and we end up sleeping together and gave her the best sex she’s had by taking my time. She texts me how wonderful sex was on friday while I was at work. made me feel as if we were making progress to get back together. She later invites me to her daughters gymnastic banquet and there we are kissing like a couple and she invites me to go fishing on Sat morn with her and her daughter and we have a great time and I spend the night and have great sex and end up spending all day Sunday kissing and hanging out. yesterday she texts me that se saw i took off my pic of us on facebook and how her feelings are not coming back and no sparks, I told her thats why im giving you your space and what about you telling me that Thursday felt good and Sat night she tells me it felt good for me to be in bed next to her. She also bought me ticket to her daughters gymnastics performance this sat and her School Xmas permance for next week. Is she just playing games? Does she still have feelings for me? Do i have a chance?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She is acting like she still has feelings for you, so I think there is a chance you can get her back, but you have to step up your game. If you’ve dated a single mother for three years, and have a relationship with her child, you have to decide if this is going to be permanent or not. If it’s not, then you have to move on, but if it is, you have to give her some kind of commitment.

She clearly wants you to be a step-father for her daughter or else she wouldn’t be including you in her daughter’s social life. But, I think she felt disrespected when you wouldn’t kiss her in front of your parents, because she allowed you to sleep over when her daughter was in the house and she felt you should do something in kind. She thought you weren’t taking the relationship as seriously as she was and that there wasn’t going to be the same level of commitment from you that she was showing.

So decide if you want her for good or not, and then show her — by declaring her yours.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and join me @AskAprilcom on Twitter, and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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