[happy_chrissy]

I met a guy last year thru a social function where he wanted my number, which I gave to him. Last year, he texted me to hang out with him and his friends since my friends and I were going to be in the hamptons for the holiday. He brought his friends over to the house that my friends and I were staying out and we had never hung out like this before. We had a great weekend. After the weekend finished, I had texted him that we should do this again and he replied absoultely. Well, I didn’t hear from him and this was last year. I figured, what ever.

Now, I just saw him again this August where he didn’t bring up why he did not call and of course, I didn’t either. However, he did not leave me alone at the function that we were at, he was by my side the whole time talking to me, wanting to know what was going on with me, and that he would not move back to the island, unless he was getting engaged(where did that come from?? i have no clue.weird..) Anyways, till this day, he does not initiate text, he only responds back to me every time I text him and he texts me back every single time very quickly; within 2 minutes..I do not get him? Maybe he is shy, I do not know? Why bother texting me back if you are not interested and why not just ignore my text or just tell me he is not interested???

[kai]

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[totaltwifan]

Hmm well that’s weird lol. I think that maybe he is still confused about what he wants with you and maybe he isn’t initiating conversation because he doesn’t know what to think, while at the same time he is texting you back and staying friendly with you to keep you around. He might be thinking that eventually he will want something with you, in other words. So I think maybe based on your how you feel about HIM, you should either be bold and confront him about what he wants OR maybe be even bolder and stop texting him and wait to see if he ever initiates conversation with you. If he doesn’t, and time has gone by then you can cut your losses and move on. But if you really have feelings for the guy, then I would just confront him about it. Your guess is as good as mine though girl lol. I’m going through the same sort of thing right now myself. Good luck 🙂

[ankit]

This guy definitely have some interest in you .Maybe he likes you but right now not able to think like what he has to do regarding you and him as a relation.Let him take his time to decide,maybe this would benefit your relation later-on.

[Dating]

Well I think that he is not certain what he wants and by replying to your messages promptly he is trying to keep you interested in how ever long it is until he either figures out what he wants or maybe he just enjoys the attention and is playing a mind game.either way I suggest you quit being the first to always text and if he does not text you too bad you have put signals out there but if he is too blind then it’s his loss.

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[kai]

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[Natalie Noah]

The guy you’re interested in is sending mixed signals, which can be really confusing. On one hand, he seems invested when you’re around staying by your side, showing interest in your life, and responding quickly to your texts. On the other hand, he doesn’t take the initiative to start conversations, which leaves you wondering about his true intentions. This pattern often indicates someone who is uncertain about what they want or hesitant to commit, even if there is genuine interest. It can also be a sign of shyness, overthinking, or simply someone who likes attention but isn’t ready to take the next step.

The key here is to focus on clarity. Right now, you’re doing most of the work, emotionally and communicatively, which can create an imbalance. If he’s truly interested and serious about pursuing something with you, he should be willing to meet you halfway and initiate contact or make plans. His quick responses show he values your attention, but valuing attention and being ready for a relationship are two different things. You deserve someone who actively chooses to engage with you, not someone who passively waits for you to do all the work.

The healthiest approach is to step back and see if he makes the effort on his own. Give him space, don’t always be the first to text, and observe whether he reaches out without prompting. If he does, that’s a good sign he’s genuinely interested. If he doesn’t, it’s a clear indication that he may enjoy your attention but isn’t ready for more. Being direct is also an option you could calmly ask him what he wants from this connection to gain clarity and protect your own emotional energy. This way, you avoid getting stuck in uncertainty and preserve your self-respect.

[Danna Clarisse]

You shouldn’t be the one chasing him like that. That way, you’ll also find out if he truly likes you or not. For me, it’s a red flag when the woman is the one chasing the man.

You can give small signs that he has a chance with you, just to help build his confidence in case he is really just shy. But you should never be the one to chase or initiate first.

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