Good question! 😀 This girl who is overly affectionate is probably obviously crushing on you. If you very gently keep your distance from her, it will be apparent to everyone (except maybe her) that you’re not interested and are just tolerating the crush’s advances. You’ll probably have to establish a boundary with this crusher, delicately, to try and allow her to save face. In other words, when she hugs you, don’t hug back. If she comes over to monopolize you, smile and tell her you’ve got to run. If she STILL doesn’t get the picture, you can take her aside and tell her that you like her as a friend, but you’re not interested in her as a girlfriend, so could she please give you a little space, socially. That’s going to hurt her feelings a little, but if you do it with a smile and privately, you may limit the hurt she feels.
Don’t bring up the fact that you’re interested in someone else. If you do, it sets the stage for a triangular drama. Make the discomfort you feel over her advances strictly about her — and not about anyone else.
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