There is this guy who I knew when we were in 4th grade, which would have been back in 1992. But I moved away and lost contact. About 5-6 years ago he contacted me out of the blue on Facebook and we started talking again. Then we each ended up in relationships and stopped communicating. We’ve both become single again in the past year, and again, he initiated contact with me. I realized a few years ago when he initially contacted me that I really liked him, so when I heard from him again I was very excited. This was a couple of months ago and we realized that since he moved we only live 5 hours from each other. We had talked about hanging out because we live closer than we did before. A week ago I took the plunge and drove down to see him. It was a very short trip but we had fun. When I had returned home he had said that we would definitely hang out again. Well, this past weekend I had a three day weekend and so I suggested I come down to visit. He was all for it, so I stayed 2 days this time. We had a very good time. When talking to him while down there, he had mentioned that he gets very shy around women and that he’s “dense and doesn’t pick up on subtle hints”. He has also brought up me selling my house and moving down where he is multiple times. Plus when I was down there this past weekend he took me around his family, and he mentioned that he never brought women around his family. And his brother even said something in passing that he was glad that I was finally down there to “meet the girl “A” couldn’t stop talking about”. All of these things seem so positive, but when I’m home, he seems distant and I feel like I’m initiating contact all the time and I don’t want to seem pushy, but since he proclaimed himself as “clueless”, should I tell him that I’m very interested in creating a relationship with him (I am completely open to the idea of moving down to where he is)? Or I wonder if I’m expecting too much from him when I’m home and I need to give him space. I’m at a complete loss. We are both in our early 30’s and I just feel like I’m too old to be playing games, but I wear my heart on my sleeve and since I really like this guy, I’m very afraid of getting hurt.
