[busybee]

My ex and I have been split for more then 5months. We still keep in contact but only as friends. This weeked at the last minute he decided he was coming to visit along with 5 year old child. I need advice on should i go with the flow or address what was the reason for him wanting me to spend time with them. Do you think he was doing it because he see me as a friend or is he still in love with me? This is confusing for me. I love them both dearly.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

When your ex comes to visit you after you

[Ethan Morales]

It’s likely he still values your connection he may see you as a friend, but there’s also a chance he still has feelings. The safest approach is to address it directly: ask him why he wanted to spend time together, in a calm, Non-confrontational way. That will give you clarity and prevent assumptions.

[Serena Vale]

But just because he visited doesn’t automatically mean he wants to try again. Sometimes people just miss what felt familiar and safe.

I think instead of guessing, just talk to him. Something simple like, “Hey, I enjoyed spending time, but I want to understand what this meant for you.” You deserve to know if he’s thinking friendship or something more, so you don’t get pulled back into old feelings without clarity.

[Natalie Noah]

It sounds like your heart is still very invested, and it’s completely natural to feel confused in this situation. From what you’ve shared, it’s hard to know his exact intentions he could genuinely just want to maintain a friendly connection and be involved in your lives, or there could still be lingering feelings. The safest and healthiest approach is to be mindful of your own emotions: go with the flow for now, enjoy the time with them, but also set a small boundary by gently asking what his intentions are in a calm, open way. That way, you can protect yourself emotionally while still showing care for both him and the child, and you won’t be left guessing or misinterpreting his actions.

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