[alexx]

Long story short, our relationship was going great and all of a sudden he wanted to break up so he could get space. He broke up with me a month ago. I didn’t listen to him because I was so upset so I just texted him nonstop wanting to know if there was a chance of getting back together. He told me he loved me and wanted to be with me again one day, just not now. I bugged him so much he finally just told me he didn’t love me anymore and never wanted to be with me again. He said not leaving him alone ruined my chances and that he was done with me when 2 hours before that he said he still loved me and wanted to be with me.

Do you think he said it out of anger and didn’t mean it? Or said it so I would leave it alone? This happened 3 days ago and he’s acting like it never happened. He still talks to me and takes me to school and is nice to me. He acts like nothing happened, like we never broke up. My grandma is the main person I told about all of this and she says that he still loves me and isn’t done with me because if he didn’t wanna be with me ever again he would stop talking to me completely.

I’m a mess, I just want to know how he feels and what to do.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Well, I can’t tell you how [i]he[/i] feels, but I can tell you what [i]you[/i] should do. 😉

Desperation is not an attractive quality and it sounds like you let the rejection get to you and then you acted desperate. 🙁 My advice is to now back off. You’ve already tried swarming him and that didn’t work. Now, you should give him space and whether or not you get back together again — be the girlfriend he (or someone else) is going to want –don’t be one that guys want to get away from. 😉

I don’t know how old you are, or how long the two you had been dating prior to the beak up a month ago, but I think that given what you have told me, you should start to focus on you, not him. Go to the gym, see friends, focus on school, work, and family. Volunteer, have your nails done, stay busy — and don’t start to bother him. Let him come to you, instead. If he does, and he sees that you’re doing well, and even great — he’ll be more attracted to you than if he feels that you can’t live without him. 😎

I hope that helps. 😉

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[alexx]

Oh I completely forgot to mention that! He’s 16 and I’m 17, and we were officially together for a year and a couple months, but we were involved with each other for 2 years. What’s strange is he’s starting to come around and I’ve barely even started to back off. I think what you said will work. You helped a lot 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome. 😀

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[alexx]

He’s starting to really confuse me. He told me today that there’s still a chance of us getting back together when just a few days ago he said I ruined all of my chances. It makes no sense to me.

My biggest problem right now is he’s been talking to this girl. I asked him about it multiple times a couple weeks ago and he tells me they’re just friends. She’s in 8th grade and she’s either 13 or 14. I know that they have talked on skype a few times and that they like each other’s pictures. I brought it up to him and he thought it was absolutely ridiculous that I thought that they had something going on. I asked him so many times I think that he would have told me if they were more than friends by now, but I’m not sure. He said that they’re just friends and they talk sometimes. When I talked to him about it earlier today he said, “I don’t talk to her as much as you think I do,” but I’m not sure what to think. She had a crush on him before we dated and she still did when we got together. She would tweet about him and tweet about how she would be better for him. After a while I guess she got over it because we ended up being friends. Now I think she’s trying again. I asked him at one point if he liked her and he said he doesn’t like her. I asked him if she likes him and he said probably but they aren’t more than friends. Maybe it’s just my thoughts and insecurities. I feel like he could just be telling me that to make me feel better, but he still talks to me like nothing has happened. My family says that if he really was trying to start something with her he wouldn’t keep me around like he is. I’m just really really confused.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Here was my advice from last week. I think you should consider it. 🙂

[quote]Desperation is not an attractive quality and it sounds like you let the rejection get to you and then you acted desperate. 🙁 My advice is to now back off. You’ve already tried swarming him and that didn’t work. Now, you should give him space and whether or not you get back together again — be the girlfriend he (or someone else) is going to want –don’t be one that guys want to get away from. 😉

I don’t know how old you are, or how long the two you had been dating prior to the beak up a month ago, but I think that given what you have told me, you should start to focus on you, not him. Go to the gym, see friends, focus on school, work, and family. Volunteer, have your nails done, stay busy — and don’t start to bother him. Let him come to you, instead. If he does, and he sees that you’re doing well, and even great — he’ll be more attracted to you than if he feels that you can’t live without him. 😎 [/quote]

Hope that helps.

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