I have been separated from my ex-wife for over three years now. We have had our fights and yelling matches and have found a place where we can be civil with each other evenbhold little conversations. I still love her greatly and do wish to have her back as my wife. She is currently with someone else even pregnant with his child. Although I have accepted this fact and made peace with it in my mind but I am not okay with it. I want her back even though she is having a child with a man who has left her twice at this point and as far as I can see from what she has told me they are together now because she is having his baby, although she hasn’t said it flat out. Well that is another tangent for another post.
Her actions when i go to pick up OUR daughter is what is confusing. She stands and waits for me to leave. But it
doesn’t seem antsy or impatient. She smiles a lot at me and act kind of shy. She share more information then is needed to even just be friendly. Yesterday we met at a neutral location (because I live three hours away now for work) and she had a long day at work where she git wet and she hadn’t had time to change before meeting me. It wasn’t a big deal she was cold and normal when she’s in a bad or neutral mood she would just say something like “im cold im going to go” but she proceeds to tell me about why she cold and what she did and stood there like she wanted to talk. Also I have been finding my self having to end the conversations with her saying something to the affect of “well its getting late talk to you later” or “we better get going ” each time I do something like that, she seems to be dissapointed.
She and I have Have gotten back to gether twice sence the seperation and Becuase the divorce papers in the state that we live in have to be filed in the county that the child lives in i have left it to her to file. the papers and filled out and signed by me. I even gave her half of the filing fee. all she needs to do is take it to the court and give them the money and papers it is a ten minute thing to do. yet she hasn’t filed yet and she keeps telling me she forgot or she hasn’t had time or that she been scattered brained. Now if she had been like that when we were together i could understand. But she never has been like that in the past. she doesn’t do that. its not her.
any advice on what she might be thinking or why she would be acting like this. Is there a chance that we might be able to get back together.
By the way becuase I know its going to be asked, she left me, and it was when things were getting better and she never gave a reason or atleast a consistant reason. the reason keeps changing each time i had asked her. I personaly believe that it was because she never got a chance to sow her oats. be out on her own and well mess around.
