Yes, you had chemistry with this woman, but she was totally wrong for you. Chemistry isn’t everything. It’s a lot. But often, it’s just a starting point. (And sometimes, it comes later in the relationship.) Finding a woman who is going to make you feel loved, excited and supported is about more than just chemistry. You need chemistry, but you need other things, too.
I know you’re hurt, but you’re going to be fine. It’s better to feel the pain than to suppress it and have it crop up in some dysfunctional way at some other time. You should take whatever time you need to get over the break up, but don’t wallow. Feel your pain, figure out what it was about this woman you broke up with that attracted you and how you took a wrong turn on the way to this last relationship, and at the same time, take care of yourself. Get out there and go to the gym, do your job, see your friends and family and anyone who makes you feel supported and healthy. Get yourself a new haircut, some new clothes — and basically take good care of you. But then it’s time to move on.
When you’re ready, get back out there, and start dating and looking for someone who’s really right for you. You might want to check out my book, Date Out Of Your League, which will help you find women who you thought were out of your league, and make a relationship work with them! You can click on the Dating Advice Books link at the top of the page, scroll down, and you’ll see instructions for ordering the book. It might be a good read for you now while you’re getting over your break up and getting ready to move on.
