Hello April,
I’ve recently realized that I am starting to fall for a friend. She’s intelligent, confident, has an amazing smile and a beautiful mind. We have been friends for about six months, go to school together, and are in many of the same classes. We typically go out to lunch together, sometimes dinner, alone, after classes, and are pretty involved in some of the same clubs on campus. I suspect she may have similar feelings for me, and intend to ask her out on a date–she’s exceptional, and despite how unsure am about asking her out, I couldn’t stand missing out if there’s the possibility for something more.
I’m unsure as to what the best way to actually ask her out would be. I’m a fairly confident guy, and don’t have any issues approaching attractive women I don’t know very well, getting their phone number, et cetera, however, the dynamic here is a bit different than I’m used to, I see her often, and we’re friends–this is a situation I’ve never actually been in before. Do I ask her out when we go out to grab lunch or dinner? If so, do I ask closer to the start of the meal (giving us more time to talk) or towards the end of the meal? Should I call her and ask (this seems awkward, since we don’t talk on the phone that often)? Do I specifically call it a “date”, or not?
All those questions and more are going through my mind, and any advice you may have on how to ask her out and also on how to deal with possible reactions would be greatly appreciated. I’m ideally searching for a way to ask that’s natural (not awkward, allows me to appear somewhat confident), puts her at ease, and isn’t something that she hears all the time (she works as an exotic dancer, something I don’t have an issue with, and is obviously approached quite often).
Thank you,
Joe88fromcali
