[johndoe]

Im falling in love with a girl who is moving away. We are exclusive and the feeling is mutual, but the relationship has an expiration date. There is nothing wrong and everything is going amazingly well. The only trouble is that sometimes when we are lying next to eachother I cant stop my mind from wondering and getting upset that she is moving away in 2 months time. I know I need to be present and enjoy every moment while its happening ( and i do 90 percent of the time ) but sometimes i cant help but get overwhelmed / upset during these happy moments and im concerned that im going to let my worry / sadness during these times ruin something beautiful.

Is it possible to get out of this headspace and stop my mind from wondering?

I am also going away around the same time as her and we may cross paths on our travels, neither of us wanted a boy / girlfriend becuause of timing / life / travel plans.
We have both agreed to just roll with and live in the now ( which i have been doing untill now! )

I want to know why my mind seems to be poisoning the good times, its the opposite of how i usually think and its not me!

If you have any advice or have anything to add please let me know.

Many thanks

x

[AskApril Masini]

You’re in a tough situation and pretty much anyone would feel the same way you do. If you want to make plans beyond the move — whether it’s a reunion, or a way to keep in touch, that’s one way to offset the relationship ending. The other way is to spend less time together so the ending doesn’t have the same impact that it will if you spend a lot of time together and then have to part.

There’s not a magic solution to this problem, and your feelings are justified.

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