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Hi. My roommate and friend spends as much time as possible with my girlfriend. He’s there when I get back from work, he’s there when I go to bed, and when I get up at 5:30 in the morning, he’s sleeping on the couch. I can’t have my morning coffee without tip-toeing around. My girlfriend says she understands, but he’s so helpful to her and ‘our’ baby, that she finds it hard to tell him to leave. Its at the point niw that I don’t spend nights there, and hardly see her because because I’m truly tired of seeing him there.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Fill me in a little first:

Is this friend your live in roommate? Do you just have the one roommate? How long has he lived with you?

Does your girlfriend live with you? How long have the two of you been dating?

Do the two of you have a baby together?

Oh — and how old are the three of you?

Let me know know the answers to these questions and I’ll advise you! 😀

[dbgood]

Sorry about the lack of info. My friend is 58 yrs. He rents the 2nd bedroom in my house. I say rent, but, as a friend, I don’t ask him for much money, and if he doesn’t have the money he doesn’t pay. My girlfriend is 29 yrs. She rents a 2 bedroom apt. for her and her 7 month old girl. The baby isn’t mine, but I have been there from the beginning. We have been more on than off for 3 1/2 yrs. She got pregnant during our last time apart. I can’t have kids. I love the girl like my own. I’m called daddy. The real dad is out of the picture due to violence and abuse. I am 40. I own a house that is under renovations. Its unsafe for a child to be in right noe. I don’t know if we would work if this situation was resolved, but I’m sure it would make a huge difference in our relationship since I don’t even want to be there because I know he will be there

[dbgood]

Sorry about the lack of info. My friend is 58 yrs. He rents the 2nd bedroom in my house. I say rent, but, as a friend, I don’t ask him for much money, and if he doesn’t have the money he doesn’t pay. My girlfriend is 29 yrs. She rents a 2 bedroom apt. for her and her 7 month old girl. The baby isn’t mine, but I have been there from the beginning. We have been more on than off for 3 1/2 yrs. She got pregnant during our last time apart. I can’t have kids. I love the girl like my own. I’m called daddy. The real dad is out of the picture due to violence and abuse. I am 40. I own a house that is under renovations. Its unsafe for a child to be in right noe. I don’t know if we would work if this situation was resolved, but I’m sure it would make a huge difference in our relationship since I don’t even want to be there because I know he will be there

[dbgood]

Sorry about the lack of info. My friend is 58 yrs. He rents the 2nd bedroom in my house. I say rent, but, as a friend, I don’t ask him for much money, and if he doesn’t have the money he doesn’t pay. My girlfriend is 29 yrs. She rents a 2 bedroom apt. for her and her 7 month old girl. The baby isn’t mine, but I have been there from the beginning. We have been more on than off for 3 1/2 yrs. She got pregnant during our last time apart. I can’t have kids. I love the girl like my own. I’m called daddy. The real dad is out of the picture due to violence and abuse. I am 40. I own a house that is under renovations. Its unsafe for a child to be in right noe. I don’t know if we would work if this situation was resolved, but I’m sure it would make a huge difference in our relationship since I don’t even want to be there because I know he will be there

[dbgood]

Sorry about the lack of info. My friend is 58 yrs. He rents the 2nd bedroom in my house. I say rent, but, as a friend, I don’t ask him for much money, and if he doesn’t have the money he doesn’t pay. My girlfriend is 29 yrs. She rents a 2 bedroom apt. for her and her 7 month old girl. The baby isn’t mine, but I have been there from the beginning. We have been more on than off for 3 1/2 yrs. She got pregnant during our last time apart. I can’t have kids. I love the girl like my own. I’m called daddy. The real dad is out of the picture due to violence and abuse. I am 40. I own a house that is under renovations. Its unsafe for a child to be in right noe. I don’t know if we would work if this situation was resolved, but I’m sure it would make a huge difference in our relationship since I don’t even want to be there because I know he will be there

[dbgood]

And I almost forgot. This friend has rented from mee for almost 6 yrs. It was actually him who introduced my girlfriend and I.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Tell your roommate that you’ve decided you don’t want to rent to him or anyone any more. At age 58, he should really either be on his own, or with his own girlfriend, or living in a roommate situation that is better suited to him (and you!). Don’t make a big deal of this. Try and keep it light.

He’s lonely and it sounds like he has some problems that he doesn’t want to deal with, so he’s hanging out with your girlfriend and you. Gently evicting him will give him the opportunity to make a better life for himself. 😀

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