[tomalamaldito]

Dearest April, thank you for taking the time to answer my stir crazy dilema!!
as the title says.. i believe im being being played and put in the friendzone with concrete boots!! My dilema is the following ive been friends with an attractive 26 yr old pshyc major (lucky me) for about 7 years now , its never really been a close relationship considering that throught these 7 yrs we rarely saw one another due to the fact that we were both in stable relationships during these past years. Fast forward 5-6 yers later were both single(for about a year or so) and been hanging out a little more often. My main confusion is the constant mixed signals im getting from this girl.. you see ever since we met we have always been playfull and flirty with one another.. we saw each other once a month at most when we were in our old relationships.. nothing flamboyant just lunk or dinner you know casual. So then last year we get together for valentines day and went salsa dancing..had a blast and on the way home we gave eachother a peck on the lips ..( not really a kiss) Then the storm came …she started acting indifrent and distant towards me..to the point where she texted me that “she loved spending time with me but did not want to make our friendship akward, because she does not trust herself when shes alone with me” So after that we didnt see each other untill this past march.. we still text and talk occasionally on the phone..but no contact physically. I had found out later through facebook that she had been dating her exboyfriend during this time.. and just last november broke up with him ..again!! So Now back in january i reinitiated contact wiith her.. just to see how her life had been going.. and she invites me to her house (something which i never expected) and she proceeds to tell me how her parents and divorcing each other due to domestinc violence agaisnt her mother (she called the cops on her father) so now shes the head of the household and paying for bills mortgage etc.. After major revalation we started hanging out a couple times movies, dancing, ive massaged her couple times at her house (im a massage therapist) and we went to our first concert on april 1st (irronically) night was epic we got close, danced , flirted heavily , even sang songs on the drive home..walked her to her door and i went for the kiss.. it was mutual..she got into it touching my face and hugging.. we hung out the next night at her house and i almost spent the night..but couldnt do anything since brother was home.. so we just kissed and cuddled !! Now it seems like history repeats itself again.. ever since we Kissed shes been textin me less..and seems distant..we havent hung out since then either!! The fact that when she does text me she always writes the word “buddy” in there which has me banging my head against the wall..Your my” Buddy” yet you kiss and lead on…i really like this girl ever since we met 7 years ago and i really wanna give this a try and not mess any chance that i might have with her.. if any!! Any advice you could give me would be appreciatted whole heartedly.. Thank you so much April for your valuable time!!

P.s Keep in mind that this girl has not had a good relationship with her father (due to the recent domestic violence issue)

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you want her to be your girlfriend, then start acting like a man who is pursuing a girlfriend! It doesn’t sound like you’ve asked her out on a date, picked her up, dropped her off, and called her a day or two later to tell her you had a nice time. Then asked her out again the following week. YOU’RE the one who’s acting like a buddy. 😮

Read the book I wrote for men called Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], so you understand how to find, get and win with your woman! The friend zone is a two way street, so get off it!

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please buy and read the book.

See you @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[tomalamaldito]

Thank you April.. im going to go ahead and initiate contact and ask her out again.. the reason i hadnt done so is that she has been acting distant and not as responsive to my advances as she use to do before we kissed each other! i kinda had the idea that she probably feels pressured now, and im gonna be pushing her away even more with my advances!! Do you you think the whole being friends frame that im inn has any possible escape routes??? and if so how do you suggest i go ahead and approach this issue…

Thank you much

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Yes, I [i]do[/i] think you can get out of the friend zone, and I told you how in my last post! 😆 Didn’t you read it?? 😮 Read Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. This book will help you get out of that zone. I hope you’ll feel this relationship is important enough to spend the $8.99 for the book and the time it takes to read it. 😉

Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 🙂

[Anonymous]

I just ordered your book and am very excited to get my hands on it and start applying all the ideas! i wanted your opinion on this new issue that popped up unexpectedly with this same girl that i like, she invited me to go dancing last week to a cinco de mayo party at a bar and i agreed to go thinking it wasgoing to be just me and her. turns out that its going to be a group of 6 thing with her friends.. so now im havin second thoughts about going considering that the last 2 times i saw this girl we were alone and we kissed. im not sure if shes just testing me or she really want to see me .. and i dont know how shell act now that shes around her friends and she knows i have a thing for her…. what are your thoughts, should i go ahead with this and sgow up..i really dont wanna be that guy that stands around her if she happens to bring a bunch of her girl friends…

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Read the book first, and then let’s talk! The website edition with the link I gave you downloads automatically. 😉 I think it’s going to answer a lot of questions you have — and possibly raise different ones. 😀

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