[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for over half a year now, and recently it’s been starting to bother me how many women he’s been with. We are both still in college, but he is 3 years older than me.

He had a phase in his life where he became depressed and partook in risky sexual behavior. As a college student myself, I understand that guys and girls alike go “wild” at this age, especially in college, but somehow it’s extremely difficult for me to get over how many girls he’s been with. The numbers aren’t outrageously high, but high enough for me to be worried. He’s had over a dozen “dancefloor hookups” and has had two hookups that led to sex. And a lot of ex-girlfriends. The total number of women he’s been with is at least 24, whereas for me it’s been about 7. Another reason I’m worried is because most of my male friends in college aren’t the “party-type” and I definitely did not expect to be dating someone like that. Ever since we’ve started going out, though, he’s changed and has been extremely loyal. He said he finally wants to “settle down”.

I know that the chances we will stay together after college are low, but I feel like if I can’t get past this our relationship will never stand a chance at all. But what can I do, when the last thing I think about at night and the first thing I think about when I wake up is an image of him with another woman?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you should try and let go of your jealousy over his ex-girlfriends and hook ups. He’s been loyal to you and he’s been honest with you. Who he is today and how he became that person are much more important than who he used to be.

Let it go and don’t ruin a good thing.

I hope that helps. Let me know how it goes. And join me on Facebook. Here’s that link: [url][/url].

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