[Robson09]

Hi April,

Me and ex got back about 2 months ago( we broke up with each other first 2years ago),we have been talking during the whole summer, so we got back and things couldn’t been better, we were both incredible happy. Then couple weeks ago we found out she was pregnant, of me, of the whole shock during the first day, we were still as good as before, we decided to get an abortion, I told her I would support her on whatever she decides and i would go to the abortion clinic with her and everything,being supportive and all that.
Last Saturday she had a break down,i saw that through her “bbm”status,and she didn’t wanna talk about, and since that day she was being really cranky, not responding to some of my messages, and sometimes I was cranky because she was being cranky until she told me on tuesday she isn’t ok lately and she couldn’t be around me right now. So i respected that, and she started talking to me again the next day. So yesterday I sent her a message (because she was being cranky and rude again) but saying that i really love her,that I’m gonna support her, I apologize for being cranky because I didn’t understand what she was going through and everything. She didn’t text me back until last night asking about what’s was the name of the song that reminds us ( she was going out,drinking last night),asked if i was going out and such, then I was drinking and at the bar i got “close’ to a girl at the dance floor,couple people that was there saw us dancing,but they don’t talk to my girlfriend at all, later that night she texted me asking where i was and to go to the bar where she was at ( that was 3am the bar closes at 3:30). i said i wasng going, so this morning we talked, she mentioned 2of my friends were at the bar last night, and sent a smile face, I only asked her if she hooked up with someone there if she would tell me. Then she flipped, told me I’m oblivious, I’m f***ed, and told me to f*** off. said next time she would make sure to tell me (wink face),said she would mack everyone. then said she can’t be with someone right now, she’s not stable, and she’s regretting a lot of things to figure out. Being acting like she hates me so we stopped texting.
She seems like another person since she ‘snapped’ and i don’t know what to do about her anymore.

[Ask April Masini]

Her acknowledgement that she’s not stable right now is your road sign. She’s been through a tremendous amount recently — the pregnancy and the abortion were probably both more traumatic for her than you realize. My advice is to give her space, but be generous, kind and warm when you can. Try and filter what you say and do with her, and if it’s not generous, kind and warm, don’t say or do it. In fact, bend over backwards to acknowledge and ask her about what she’s been through. She may not want to talk about it, but your being there and being open to comfort her, is the best you can do.

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