[kevin164_]

Please help. My girlfriend and I have been dating now for almost a year. In the begining our sex life was amazing. I could kiss her and she would be turned on. Now I kiss her and its like kissing someone that is old. We have sat down several times and talked about this issue and it’s like she comes up with more issues. We have not had sex in over five months now. I have even now got to the point were I don’t want to touch myself. I have also found photos of her breast on her phone and havent said anything to her about it. Please help.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Since you found naked photos of herself on her phone, it sounds like she’s got something sexual going on elsewhere. Sex doesn’t just stop out of the blue like this. There’s a reason. It could be a physical, chemical or hormonal reason. It could be depression. Or it could be another relationship going on.

This is a problem in your relationship with her, and you have to both want it to get better in order for it to get better. Start with date nights and spend some time together just the two of you in a romantic setting. Take a weekend away where you can get rid of the stress, and if you think she needs a physical or or has something going on in her life that’s upsetting her and depressing her, you can ask her about it and see if she wants to talk about it.

Regardless of what you decide to do, the two of you have to work on this together.

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[Nate_OK]

I think there is a lot of change. You need to be careful with this. Communication is key and you obviously should tell her you found these pictures. Tell her you worried and you want to understand what’s going on. She may be angry at you but at least you have been honnest and being worried is a good feeling, it means you care.
There are way too much reasons why she would do smtg like this and we can’t predict what’s going on. You need to talk to her.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[b]Nate_OK[/b] has an interesting and valid point here. This is an issue, for now, that’s between the two of you — it’s not just hers or yours, as long as you’re a couple. 😉

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