[Anonymous]

This fall me and my boyfriend will be going off to college on opposite sides of the state. We have been together over three years, with no breaks or break ups in between. I’m nervous because I am so used to being able to see him every day, and now I’ll barely ever see him. I’m not sure what to do.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You have a common problem and there are three obvious solutions: One is to have a long distance relationship. I don’t recommend this because you both have an opportunity to have a full college experience living away from home from the first time in your lives, and having a boyfriend across the state may inhibit you from living your life to the fullest. Second is to break up and move on. It’s hard to do this because you have such a good relationship, but the reality is things are changing and you’re both going away to different colleges. Sometimes relationships end because of changes like this. Usually we wait for some drama to end things — like betrayal, a big fight or even falling out of love. It can feel very unusual to break up when things are going well — just because of this distance change, but it’s a valid reason for a break up. And lastly, you can break up and see each other over winter break from college if you’re both not dating other people at that time.

I know you’ve got a lot of changes ahead of you and change can be scary, but try to pick the option that works best for you.

Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter. 😀

[victor rock]

I always remember my days that i spent in collage. Everyday that pass there was awesome
i can never forget it

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

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