Hi April, I’ve been dating this guy for about 4 months (started talking 5 months ago) and he would see me basically once every week in between school everyday and work on weekends. I’m 19 and he just turned 21. The second month while out with him, he brought up the ‘What do you want’ talk and I told him I wanted a relationship, but when I was ready (Just got out of a 3 year relationship) and he said he would’ve wanted me to be his girlfriend and he wanted a relationship too, but he would wait for me to be ready. He made sure to establish with me that we were dating.
A month later I was confused by him and thought I’d bring up another talk and he said he’s really into me but not sure if he wants a relationship right now. Seemed as if he changed his mind.
We have not had sex, he asked me once but I told him I wasn’t ready and he was okay with it. I saw him once more after he asked me this, and he had wanted me to come to his house for the first time, but I had to leave.
Well I haven’t seen him in a month. He goes to a University and when finals came he didn’t ask to see me for 2 weeks and said he’s been studying (All the while texting me every single day as usual). Then he told me his car broke down before he went on Christmas break. I talked to him over the phone and it seemed like a legit story but I’m not sure if I believe him. He tried to see me one time before his car broke down, but I wasn’t able to. The same weekend his car broke down, which was last weekend, he tried to see me in his parents car but it didn’t work out. (My fault)
He’s able to get to work and seems to be able to go out with friends too. He still texts me every day, even though I hardly respond nowadays because I feel strange conversing with someone every day that I haven’t seen in a month.
What do I do about this? Should I give up?
