[Anonymous]

long story for short.
he was cheating on his ex with me.
but he kept saying its different cuz they didnt get along together.
according to him, he just waited for the time he can break up with her.
He spent awfully alot of time with me more than he did with his gf, though.
he came over my place almost everyday and went back hm over midnight and slapt over during the weekends.
yeah it seemed he and her already ended and just waited time to break up..

anyway, he broke up with her and we are together unofficially.

my concern is that it is hard to trust him. maybe it is my karma . cheating with another girl’s man.
he said he’s not worried about me meeting other guy becuz he is with ME.
but I AM.

he was living with his gf while he met /hung out etc with me.
so How can I not think that he would not do samething to me.

another thing is he joined the daitng site.
i asked him to find another girl when we fought and he did to spite me.
i found out he ‘s actully mailing with some girl.
he said its nothing.- well she is another side of the world so they couldn’t meet.
but thing is he did not tell me. i found out somehow and asked me.

well…. it became long story.
I don’t know how can i trust him.
i know he loves me . the way he looks at me i can tell and he said he wanna have baby with me…
but iam still afriad if i find out something later, something that i regret my decision of being with him.
even if me and him couldn’t make it, i’d like to think i have a good time with him, not end up with hating him.

i’m just lost and losing my faith in him.

please help me.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

He joined [i]a dating site[/i], and you’re wondering if you can trust him??

NO! 😕

You can’t. I understand your concern about karma and his repeating his pattern of cheating on his last girlfriend with you while they were dating, now that you’re his girlfriend, and she’s out of the picture. But when you told me he’s joined a dating site — AND he’s corresponding with a woman from that site, I think you know the answer to your question.

Actions speak louder than words, and while he may tell you he’s loyal and wants to have a baby with you, you’d be wise to remember he’s got another woman he’s saying (maybe those same) things to, too!

Sorry, but I don’t think you’ve got Mr. Right. 🙁 Not this time.

Be a little more discriminating next time. You deserve a guy who’s loyal to you and only you. 🙂

[Anonymous]

He cannot be trusted, how much is going on that you don’t know about. You are second best always because he is number #1 on his list. Please, Please do not have a baby with this boy. Future reference, don’t mess around with someone who has someone, it is a red flag for future trust issues.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Oliviabud brings up an interesting point that when you date someone who’s already taken, you decrease your chances of being his one and only considerably. If you date someone who’s actually available, it’s a lot easier to trust and discern trust issues from other issues.

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