The important thing is that he is committed to you. His painful honesty will be a challenge for you to be painfully honest back to him. It’s fair for you to tell him that you understand his wanting to hold on to precious memories of the past, but that it makes you feel uncomfortable and as if you’re not the number one woman in his life right now when you see these things. Whether or not he thinks you’re CORRECT in this logic, your feelings are your feelings. If you can ask him if he could keep his past love letters and photos in a box in the attic or the garage, and you’ll do the same with yours, that may be a compromise that brings you some peace.
My advice, however, is not to make this into a big issue. As long as these mementos are not things he takes out and laments over each week or hangs in the kitchen as a reminder of his past, this may just be something that blows over after you get over the shock of seeing the items.
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