[RCL34]

April,

My boyfriend of 2 years, “Jake”, is in a tight-knit group of guys who used to be part of a club sport in college. My college didn’t have Greek life, so this particular club is the closest the college actually has to fraternity, and they act like it. I get along with a majority of people in Jakes’ life, except for a lot of his friends from this club. I am not a shy person, but when it comes to big groups, I do get intimidated; Jake’s friends always hang out in big groups and either drink or watch sports (or both). To top it off, Jake is not very good about introducing me. He talks about me often and often feels like it is obvious who I am when talking to his friends. When he does though, he often expects me to pick up the conversation by myself (which I do in other situations), but I am just not good at with this group, since they all seem to know each other very well and don’t seem to care to get to know me. He also likes to mingle, and leave me alone for short while when we are with a group, so I am stuck sitting there alone, not talking to anyone. I don’t think they dislike me, but I also don’t think they like me since they just don’t know me. They also don’t really make a huge effort to talk to me since they have a whole group of close friends right by so why bother talking to an outsider? I am increasingly worried about this since I only really got along with one famously friendly guy, “Mike”, but now he is moving to another state in a week. Please help! I love Jake and want to get along with people who he cares about and are important to him. I also want his friends to feel comfortable when they visit the apartment Jake and I will eventually move into. Please help!

[RCL34]

In regard to my last sentence about the apartment: Jake and I are moving in together in 3 months.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I would love to answer these questions for you, but first…. please repost them as a “reply” to the string of posts you’ve first started on this forum here: . It’s much easier for me to give you better advice when I can see your history in one place. I’ll look out for your repost and answer your new questions there.

[RCL34]

Thanks April – just updated my first post. 🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Great.

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