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He says we’re “just talking,” but it feels like we’re more — I’m scared to ask what we are
I met him three months ago through mutual friends, and we instantly clicked. We started texting every day, calling every night, and spending weekends together. He tells me about his day, his dreams, even his childhood stories. He hugs me tightly when we meet, kisses me softly when he drops me off, but never calls me his girlfriend. When people ask, he just says, “We’re talking.”
At first, I didn’t care about labels. I was happy just being with him. But lately, I’ve started feeling anxious — like I’m investing my heart into something undefined. I’ve met his friends but not his family. He keeps his social media private and never posts about me. I’ve tried hinting at where this is going, but he changes the topic. Sometimes I wonder if I’m just a convenience to him — someone to fill the gaps until he finds someone “real.”
He makes me feel special but also replaceable, loved but unclaimed.
Should I ask him directly what we are — and risk pushing him away — or stay quiet and hope he’ll define it when he’s ready?

[Maria]

I completely understand what you’re feeling — that in-between space where it feels like a relationship but isn’t being named as one. It’s such a confusing and lonely place to sit in, especially when your heart has already decided but his words haven’t caught up. I’ve been there before, and it taught me that silence doesn’t create security — clarity does.

You’re not asking for too much by wanting to know what this means. When a man truly sees you as part of his life, he won’t leave you wondering. The mixed signals — the affection, the closeness, yet the lack of definition — usually mean he’s enjoying what you share but avoiding responsibility for where it’s going. And that’s not fair to your heart.

If it’s starting to hurt more than it feels good, that’s your sign to speak up. You deserve honesty, even if it’s not the answer you hope for. Sometimes asking the hard question isn’t what pushes someone away — it’s what shows whether they ever meant to stay.

So tell me, do you think you’re more afraid of losing him — or of finding out he never intended to be yours in the first place?

[Alina Moreau]

Yeah… that kind of in‑between stage can really mess with your head. When he says “we’re just talking” but acts like there’s more—calls you every day, flirts, opens up—it’s hard not to feel attached. You start hoping it means something deeper.

If it feels like more to you, that’s real. But you also deserve clarity. Try asking him what “just talking” actually means to him. You don’t need to pressure or label things too fast—just be honest about what you’re feeling and what you want.

Sometimes people enjoy the closeness without realizing they’re keeping you in limbo. You deserve someone who’s sure about you, not someone who keeps you guessing.

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