Hey April,
I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for over a year now. We love each other so much and do dedicate so much time to each other through skype, emails etc. The main problem in our relationship is that recently i can not trust him at all. Almost half a year ago when he still lived in the same area as me, i was on the phone with him and hear a knock on his door (this is about 10 pm) and hear girls voice’s. He randomly sends them away, and when i ask him about it he says he has never seen them before. But i figured out recently that these same girls went out with him and his friends (watching the soccer game) at some bar. When i asked him about it, he said that one girl was there with his friends, but he never talked to her. His excuse just didn’t make any logical sense to me, so i keep on it with the questions, until i figure out that he did talk to her, but he denies inviting her up to his room, and has no clue how she and her friend knew where he lived. Which is fine that he talks to other girls, but it doesn’t make sense how girls find out where some random guy lives unless he did lead her on through flirting (which he denies as well), or he really did invite her. The real problem i have is that he lied to me. And has continued to do so. The only way i figure out the truth is when something he says doesn’t make sense and i keep asking questions. His excuse for his lies is that he is afraid to lose me, so freaks out and lies. Also, he says that i get mad whenever i tell him anything so he just doesn’t tell me. I have repeatedly explained to him i will stop being over-dramatic, and he promised me to tell me the truth, always. He lied again. We fought then resolved our issues stating that i wouldn’t tolerate anymore lies, and that if he lies to me again it would jeopardize our relationship, and i would be done. The other day, i caught him in a lie. We are in a break right now, but i am so confused on how to handle this. I love him so much. He is the sweetest guy i have ever met, and can’t see myself with anyone else. But his lies are driving me crazy, as in i will never know the truth about anything. It makes me think that he is probably lying about everything–going to work or the gym etc, maybe he is seeing girls behind my back, how will i ever know as i can never trust his word? As of now there is no trust on my part in this long distance relationship. What should i do?
