[hottie7579]

I need help! I left my husband july 2010 (will be legally divorced Sept 2011) met this really cool guy, but didnt want any type of relationship so just did the friends with benefits thing. Found out he was also seperated but still living with his wife and daughter. Long story short after the baby was born they lived in seperate bedrooms, thats how bad the marriage was..But he was still living there with his ex..i told him it was fine for now but if he wanted to be serious she needed to move out of the house and he had to tell her about me. He refuses to tell her he is dating anyone because she is unstable, depressed and has threatened to kill herself in the past. But yet she has had many boyfriends since, but he refuses says he doesnt want to hurt her..But he did get her to move out. But she has all of her things still at the house, and she has to stay at the house during the day for various reasons. She doesnt believe in working until her child is of age to go to school and even then has to work the school hours. She has no money saved, she cant move out on her own, she is currently living at her parents house with the kid. He has to pay her $300 a month just to get her out of the house. His mom even pays her money…HELP..what do i do! I really like this guy but this ex situation is driving me nuts!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Your question is very common among newly divorced people getting back into the dating world. One of the things I always recommend is to make sure the person you’re dating is actually divorced. You can’t be a little bit divorced. You are or you aren’t. Unfortunately, you’re living with a man who is married and hasn’t divorced and for whatever reason, doesn’t want to.

My advice is to move on and find someone who’s gotten their act together the same way you have! 😉 I know you like him, but he doesn’t have an “ex situation” — he has a wife. 😮

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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