[Anonymous]

Hi,
I know there are millions of threads on this same sh*tty topic…I know what maybe most of you will say…and still..I cannot simply understand WHY guys should act like m*rons!
This guy I know for 2 years and a half. He’s a friend..then once we kissed, but I walked off as I still had to sort out me and my ex boyfriend relationship, plus was drunk and was surprised at what happened..Anyway, we met again of course as usual with friends out…then we got veeery drunk and ended up having sex..I thought of it as a one night stand at first, but it was really amazing..then we started seeing each other – I wanted to keep it a secret because of my ex boyfriend for a while…he was not happy of course..then at the end we came out to everyone last week. Things were getting even better between us. Last Friday I had to go to a concert with my ex boyfriend in a town far from where I am. He said he is fine and he hopes I will sort things out between me and my ex. We spent almost every day and night together…texting all day. when not together.. Then he said before I left that for him its more than sex now and he really likes me.. We were supposed to go on the beach on Sunday after I come back from the concert…he was: I can’t wait to see you back..I count the days…kisses, etc. ..we even texted each other when I was away before my battery died. Then I came back from the concert and called him straight away after I charged my phone back (I told him my phone will die). He hung up. I thought he did it by mistake or something…anyway I was tired from the 8 hour bus trip back and went to bad. Woke up in the morning and was preparing for the beach as we spoke. Called him at some point as there were no news from him and he didn’t pick up again. Then later I tried again – I got worried, as I very well know the guy from before and he’s not someone who’ll just not pick up. Nothing. Then texted him – ru okay? nothing…Then we went to watch the world cup final with friends, who also tried to call him and said he’s not picking up at all…I got even more worried. Called him again after the game..nothing…Called again..he hung up and then I realized he’s just taking the p*ss…I got so upset..I kept calling several times..nothing…I was pretty wasted too.. Then the next day he’s offline, nothing. A friend of mine texted me he saw him and he’s alive with all limbs attached. Well..I was happy to hear that. He send me an email, cc-ing all the friends about some stupid site..I couldn’t imagine he will send me a mass funny email and not get in touch? I emailed him – so won’t you at least tell me what happened? He replied and said he will call me later or will come by my place…and since then NOTHING…
Okay – this is ridiculous?! We’ve been seeing each other for a month, sex is great, fun is great, his last words were I can’t wait to see you when you’re back, kisses, even came with me to the bus station before I left…and then just PUFF..nothing…HELP! Why?

He’s 31 years old..not a teenager! Anyone please tell me what on earth should I do? Should I keep bugging him? If he thinks something happened with my ex on the trip, why doesn’t he say so? Or isn’t it obvious that I like him loads given that I am calling? And if he thinks so, there’s just one way to find out and that is SEE me, or just CALL me…🙁

[April Masini, your AskApril]

First of all, guys are not morons. They’re just different than women and the sooner you understand and appreciate that the sooner you’ll have a much better go of it in relationships.

Your boyfriend of one month is no longer interested in you and he’s making it perfectly clear. You need to stop bugging him. He’s probably upset because you stopped returning his calls and texts while away at a concert with your ex-boyfriend. He didn’t know it was a dead cell phone battery and assumed the worst. It’s also questionable behavior for you to go to that concert at all with your ex-boyfriend and not expect your new boyfriend to be okay with it. Men are sensitive, and you took your new boyfriend for granted. Sacrificing that concert date with your ex would have saved your relationship with your boyfriend at the time. 😳

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