[sharz]

I met this guy and he and i got along so well, and he asked me out and then we were bf and gf .. i met his parents, his friends and we all just had a good time.
He and i worked during the week so wed just see each other on the weekend and hes call me every night , it was perfect he always made me feel appreciated and good about Myself . He told me he wants us to be forever and always and i believed him.

Any way after a month he started acting weird and he told me i was getting bit clingy and i said to him how can i be when i don’t see you during the week and when i do see you on weekends i let you do your own thing i don’t hound you and i wait for you to call me, and he just said im telling you so u can fix it babe. and im like ok.
The next day my friend rang me to see if we wanted to go to dinner and i asked him and hes like no its ok and i asked him if we were ok and hes like yeah. Then half and hr later hes at my door step telling me he cant do this anymore and broke up with me… which i don’t get it broke me so much, and he said cause i was clingy and he feelings weren’t stronger which i think is bullshit cause something else is up.
I spoke to his friend and told her to tell him i miss him and she told him and he asked her what he thinks he should do and she said its up to him, i txted him i left it for 4 wks and txted him to tell him i hope hes doing ok and hope all is well for him and that i miss him. i haven’t heard from him cause he has no credit.

I just dont get how someone can come into your life sweep you off your feet and think you are right for each other and then next min break your heart its not right.. i just miss him so much and want him back what do i do from now???? please help me

[kai]

Hey sharz, like i mentioned to several other posters — April has told everyone that [b]the welcome area is not to be used as the Q & A advice forum.[/b] it even says “[i]DO NOT post your questions[/i]” here, when you go to sign up.

i suggest you delete the questions you posted in the welcome forum and repost them in the Q & A Relationship Advice Forum instead. i doubt you’ll get a response if you leave them in the welcome area.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[Sally]

This wasn’t about you being clingy. People don’t go from talking forever and always to breaking up overnight because of a few feelings. That was an excuse. Something shifted in him, and instead of talking it through, he ran.

That doesn’t mean what you shared wasn’t real. It was. But it also means he wasn’t as emotionally steady as he seemed. Someone who’s ready doesn’t leave that fast or that cold.

Right now, the best thing you can do is stop reaching out. Not to punish him. To protect you. Chasing won’t bring him back, and it’ll only make you feel smaller.
You didn’t do anything wrong by caring. You just loved someone who couldn’t stay.

I know you want him back. But for now, focus on getting through the days without reopening the wound. If he comes back, it’ll be because he chooses to. And if he doesn’t, you deserve someone who doesn’t disappear when things get real.

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