[Sasha578]

In a relationship of sorts with a man for last 3 years. Both of us older (63 and 52) and widowed. He has a lot of baggage, this I know and accept. He never can communicate his emotions.
He has admitted that he has trouble with commitment. We have gotten close, and seperated many times. Last time was last Dec – I pushed for commitment. Just started texting and emailing again at Easter. Now he texts me multiple times every day. Sometimes normal texts and sometimes inappropriate texts ( which I have asked him several times to stop and he still does). This is new!
But so far, he has not metioned getting together even though he mentioned that he has a long weekend off the 25th through the 29th. I think he was fishing for invite from me. But I think he should make the effort if he wants to see me. What do you think?
I think he must care about me? I just don’t know, and I am very confused. Would appreciate any comments you might have.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m thinking this is a trick question. 😆

You’ve been in a relationship for three years with a man who you know and freely admit has trouble communicating emotions and committing. And, you say that you accept this — [i]but [/i]now you want him to be different. 😕

I think you understand his actions perfectly, but the real question isn’t about him. It’s about you. 😉

If you know he can’t commit, and you want someone who can commit, then why don’t you find someone who is more compatible and who can give you what you want — and vice versa? 🙂 That you have separated “many times” over the three years makes it pretty clear that you’re not compatible.

You’re right — if he wants to see you on Memorial Day weekend, he’ll ask you out. He hasn’t, and you’re complicating this into something it isn’t, so you don’t have to deal with the reality.

I hope this helps. I know you want things to be different, but unless YOU change your behavior, they won’t be. 😉

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[Sasha578]

Thanks April, Good advice.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re very welcome! 😀

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