I know you want him exclusively, but the reality is he’s shown you so very clearly that he doesn’t want a mutually exclusive relationship with you. 😳 As long as you’ve allowed this seven year sporadic hook up relationship to exist, you’ve shown him with your behavior that you’re going to be there for him over and over on his terms. Your crying to him and requesting exclusivity with him and demanding it and asking for it and telling him you want it — don’t mean a thing to him and he’s showing you this with his behavior.
Until one of you changes your behavior, this cycle will continue. You have no control over him, but you do have complete control over yourself, so my suggestion is that YOU find the strength to do things differently and stop hooking up with him. I know that you have a lot of feelings for him because he was your first, but it’s time, at age 21, to move on and allow yourself a boyfriend who isn’t sleeping with other women and cheating on you or on them. You are the only one who can give this to yourself by setting up boundaries for yourself and standards for the men you date.
I hope you’re up to the task because if you continue on this path with him, you’re just going to waste time. I hope that you feel that you’re worth the energy and work to invest in a relationship that is just for you. 😀
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