[Cathydoesloans]

Hi,I’m new to this forum.
I wanna tell you a story about my life.
My husband is always busy.
He always drinks beer and watch football.
He really doesn’t worry about our family.
I think, he is going to destroy family, I,m really scary.
I need advice, help me!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

In your pre-posting questionnaire, you wrote that you are single, as is your boyfriend, and that you’ve been dating for seven years now, are both in your early 30s, and you have a minor child. Yet, in your posting title, you reference your husband. Which is it? I’m going to go by your questionnaire where you wrote that you are both single… So ,if your boyfriend has always watched television and drunk beer, then he’s just doing what he’s always done and you shouldn’t expect otherwise. But if he’s [i]suddenly[/i] drinking beer and watching television, he’s probably doing it as a way to escape something — whether it’s work, family, health issues, etc. — and that’s more of a concern. If you want to work on the relationship then try to find things that will make him want to leave the television and beer! 😎 Try to figure out what he’s escaping with the beer and television, and talk to him about that. But if you can’t, or you don’t want to, and you’re truly worried that he’s destroying your family, you can always leave, especially since you’re single. I’m not sure what’s scary about this…. it sounds more disappointing than scary, but maybe you can fill in some more details if you do write again.

[Eric Morgan]

You used the word “scary.” The first thing you would confirm is whether there is any domestic violence or a threat of violence. Alcoholism often causes anger, so safety comes first.
I think it’s hard to fight alone in such cases. You should talk to a counselor or family elder who can talk to your partner.

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