[Godwinaz]

I seek for your advice because i am dying inside. My fiance who is the mother of my 2 and 1/2 years wants to leave me for someone she met on the internet.
I got a job in a neighbouring country and i moved with my family i.e Fiance & my son. Because my fiance was not working, i got for her a laptop fully connected to the internet to enable her chat with her friends as i look for her what to do. All was well until she started chatting up to late in the night. She had one particular guy she would chat with everyday which made me suspicious but she assured me that he was just a friend. She told me that he was a pastor and married. As time went on, i realised that we were spending less time together and her love was detoriating. I was forced to read her emails and was shocked to realise that they have been exchanging love messages. When i confronted her, she first denied but later admited that she was in love with this guy and they are arranging for her to travel to France and live with this guy. A part of me wants her to go bit the other wants to fight for her. Please advice what i should do.

[Ask April Masini]

You should move back to where your fiance is and try to work things out with her. Clearly, she was lonely and it’s not clear why the two of you aren’t married, or why you didn’t bring her with you. 😕 The bigger problem isn’t this other man she met on the internet. The bigger problem is that she is lonely and doesn’t feel committed to you. So go back to her and try to work things out. The way to keep her may be as simple as you staying with her instead of moving to another country with your family and leaving her stateside.

I hope that helps.

Please let me know how things go — and I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter.

[Godwinaz]

Dear April,

Thanks for your reply and advice.
May be i didn’t explain this part well to you. When i got this job, i relocated with my fiance and our son to this neighbouring country. She is actually staying with me and this is where she met the guy on the internet. I was planning for us to get married towards the end of this year and she has been well aware of this. I am trying my best to talk to her to reconsider her decision but she seems to be so confused to the extent that she is already losing weight. I am also worried that this man may end up hurting her because i don’t believe he is genuinely in love with her.

[Ask April Masini]

I’m sorry — I didn’t see the part of your post where you actually moved your fiance and your child together to the new country where you’re working.

Now that I understand better, it’s clear she’s making a HUGE mistake. Especially since it appears from your post that she’s never met this man in person and now she wants to leave you and move to France to be with him. 🙁 I don’t think you can stop someone who’s behaving so irrationally, but you can try and protect your relationship with your child. If she takes the child with her to France, you won’t be able to father him or her in the same valuable way you would if the child was in the same country you’re in. My advice is you contact an attorney and find out your rights as a father. She probably is not allowed to take the child out of the country without your permission, and my advice is that you should exercise your right to keep your child here.

Her decision is so irrational it can only be based in some clinical depression or mental illness. She’s also possibly putting your child in danger since you don’t know who this man is she met on the internet. There are lots of stand up guys who meet women on the internet, but there are creeps and criminals who prey on the unsuspecting as well. Protect your child.

I hope that helps, and that you’ll let me know how things go.

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