You should not contact your lost friend and instead focus on your relationship with your boyfriend. It’s very clear that this lost friend had romantic feelings for you and when you rejected him, he moved on. Whether or not that was what you intended to happen, it was his choice and that’s the way it is. The good news is that he’s got clarity in his life. He doesn’t want to be your friend because his interest was in having a girlfriend. He just befriended you in hopes he could win you over. He couldn’t, so he found someone who was better suited to him.
Lots of people don’t want opposite sex friends because it is confusing for them and it’s a good idea to respect those differences.
I also don’t believe that you want him as just a friend. I think you have feelings for him, too, but they aren’t as strong as those you have for your ex. If you had this lost friend around as a friend, while you were still dating your former ex and now boyfriend, you’d get into complicated situations. It’s better this way.
I know you’re disappointed, but understand that it’s a lot healthier for you to let go of a friend that’s moved on and focus on those who want to be with you and around you! 😉
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