[Florein]

My boyfriend and I have only been together for 6 months. I met him through a mutual friend, and we quickly developed feelings for each other and became a couple.

Our relationship is actually okay, we rarely fight because he’s very understanding. Even when I know I’m the one who’s wrong sometimes, he’s still the one who humbles himself and tries to make up with me.

Because of that, I can’t help but overthink that maybe one day he’ll suddenly change and get tired of always understanding and comforting me. I love him, so I’m afraid that someone else might take him away from me.

How do I stop overthinking in our relationship?

[Lorraine]

You’re the one who can answer that. You already said your boyfriend is very understanding, so I don’t see the logic in why you need to overthink. Also, why is it so hard to stop overthinking when you know that this is the only issue and you don’t even have any real basis for it? Based on your story, you didn’t mention any real reason that would justify overthinking in the first place.

[Prince]

Just continue being good to him as well, and don’t take advantage of his kindness so he won’t get tired of you. Try not to overthink anymore and just enjoy the fact that you have a boyfriend who is very understanding and very kind.

[Roxanne]

Instead of overthinking, you should just be grateful that you have a very understanding boyfriend. You should also try to be the same way so he doesn’t feel taken for granted or abused, so that your relationship can last longer and he doesn’t get tired of always understanding you.

[Gladzzz]

You’re lucky to have a boyfriend like him because it’s rare to find someone who is that understanding. Even when you’re the one at fault, he still chooses to understand you. But remember, everyone has limits, so try your best to also be good to him and be understanding in return. In a relationship, both people need to make an effort—it can’t always be just one person giving, because he’s only human too and his patience has limits. There may come a time when he gets tired of always being the one understanding you.

[Member]

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