[Anonymous]

I am on my own and attending nursing school. My parents, however, believe I should not even consider having a boyfriend until I finish, which I believe is ridiculous. I do not want to be deceitful. We have had problems in the past with previous boyfriends and it contributed to us having a strained relationship. Now, we are rebuilding things and I want them involved inn my life and my relationship as I believe my boyfriend is really great and they would like him (although I know there are a few dealbreakers for them). We have been serious for 7 months now and looking at the long haul.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You have to accept your parents for who they are. They are not always going to do everything you want them to or behave the way you want them to. The same goes for you with them!

Given that, since you are an adult, and you’re getting your education, it’s [i]very[/i] normal for you to have a boyfriend or to date. It would be unusual if at your age you weren’t dating while attending school. But, your parents don’t like that, and [b]sometimes it’s best to agree to disagree[/b]. Hopefully, the three of you (you and your parents) can continue to forge an adult relationship that is different than the one you have had as a minor. That means respecting each other’s differences and understanding that we all disappoint each other some of the time and the best way to combat that disappointment is to adjust our expectations of each other as we get to know each other.

Don’t get defensive with them. Try and understand why they feel the way they do. And tell them you love them, but you hope that they can accept who you are because you really want to have a rich future together and share your life with them. If they’re used to you putting up a fight with them on this subject, being loving with them will disarm them, and may change the dynamic for all of you.

[Kett Parry]

Having with someone for 7 months is not consider as a serious relationship

You are an Adult and you do have right to get a boyfriend but your parents are not agreed with this prespect and as you mentioned there was problem in your past relationships for that reason your parents are more consious for you and for your future

Having a boyfriend in this age in normal but it shouldnot affect your study or future because you have a long future ahead

Your parents are disagree with having a boyfriend till you finish your school and that totally correct so, don’t rush to involve your parents into this firstly make sure:

1. Are you really like the Guy or Are the Guy really likes you
2. You should discuss both of yours future goal and see whether they are matching or not

If you want another prespect then Ask April

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