I know the question sounds like a generic statement coming from a 4th grader, but as an 18 year old college student it’s still kind of baffling me. I recently made a thread here concerning a girl who’s been a friend of mine and my sister’s for a few years now. She’s been interested in me as more than a friend for quite a while now from what I understand, and recently I’ve been at war with myself over whether or not I feel the same way after all this time.
I’m terrible at summarizing stories, but basically I’ve been wondering over the past week and a half or so whether or not I simply like her as more than a friend. For whatever reason, I felt like my feelings for her were kind of kickstarted about two weekends ago, but nothing really brought that on other than seeing her like I usually do that time of the week. I’ve always strictly seen this girl as nothing but a good friend, but I spent the majority of last week debating with myself whether or not I could ever see her past that point. There were days where I would wake up and be ready to see her and ask her on our first date, and five minutes later I would ask myself if I deep down really wanted to do that. Sometimes I’d feel like I wanted a relationship with her, other times I’d feel like maybe there really wasn’t anything there.
After seeing her a few times this past weekend, I was basically settled with my decision that I did have some feelings for her and wanted to ask her out. Now that I sit here and think about it, I’m just not sure.
I’m not sure what’s wrong with me. I feel like a relationship with her would be nice, but at times I feel like I would never really see her as more than a friend, and that would probably eventually kill the relationship. Because I already know that she’s interested in me, I’m wondering if maybe I’m not as excited about the whole thing because there’s not really any thrill in the chase. I’m not infatuated with her like I pretty much have been with every other girl I’ve liked in the past. I don’t get butterflies in my stomach when I think about her and I don’t necessarily get excited over seeing her.
So many thoughts have been running through my head lately, and I just can’t seem to sort them all out. I know I’m overthinking this by a couple thousand times, but I’ve never come across something like this before. I feel like I’m on the center line that’s between friendship and a relationship with her, and I’m not sure which side to go over.
