[oregongal]

Hi,

I’m having a hard time thinking this one through and looking for a little advice. I lost my husband to cancer 2 months ago. We were married for 37 years and I loved him very much. I really miss being in love. I started checking out some online dating sites a couple days ago and got some interested responses.

Am I crazy to consider meeting a man for coffee and getting to know you type of date? I’m almost 60, but still young at heart. The idea of meeting someone for coffee scares me to death but is exciting at the same time. I feel kinda guilty considering it, but that doesn’t necessarily make it wrong, does it?

I haven’t “dated” for almost 40 years! Would it be a bad idea to meet someone and feel the excitement of dating again? Looking for some advice from someone I don’t know that might give me a biased answer.

Thanks so much

[AskApril Masini]

When you start dating after having lost a spouse, is entirely up to you. If you feel ready, then go for it. Nobody can really tell you when or when not to date. You may encounter some judgment from adult children, family and friends, so you might want to keep any dating private, or just share it with a close friend or two — especially in the beginning of the process. And be prepared to have the dating process stir up feelings you didn’t realize that you had. But by all means, be your own judge of what is right for you. 😉 If you give it a try and then feel you made a mistake, you can simply stop.

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