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I have a few issues and don’t know how to handle them. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years we live together and have always shared everything and grown as a couple together. He drinks alot and doesn’t remember alot of what he says and does the next day. When he drinks he treats me like i am 10, he wanted me to stop working which i did, he likes the housework done a certain way which i know do it how he likes it eg the couch to be vacummed so he can see the lines in the fabric going all one way. When he drinks he over rules me in every decision and makes me feel worthless, nothing i do is ever good enough. If he rings my mobile and i don’t answer then he will not talk to me for days. He has spent over $30 000 on our credit card and can’t understand why we can’t spent $15 000 on a holiday. I love this guy but he has made me feel like a can’t do anything right, i has put my conifdence down to 0 i am crying myself to sleep most nights after he falls asleep(drunk) i have tryed to talk to him but he won’t talk about any of this. Do i ask him to come to relationship counciling with me, do i go to relationship counciling by myself i don’t have anyone to talk to i have lost weight i now weigh less than 40kg and i 5 foot tall i feel sick alot of the time and i don’t know what to do anymore……i need someone to direct me in the right direction.

[dorothy2]

Since I am going through a bad relationship time myself I am not necessarily the best one to tell you what to do. But what I WILL tell you is that asking him for counseling is not a bad idea. My parents have been together for 33 years and my mom has always told me that counseling before you get married is a good idea.
He seems like he is being very selfish.
I am not a counselor by any means but maybe he has an alcohol problem and is depressed, and therefore is taking it out on you. Good luck.

[Ask April Masini]

Your boyfriend is an alcoholic, and you are enabling him. Asking him to get counseling is neither here nor there. You are the one with the problem, since you’re choosing to live with a guy who drinks so much he can’t remember what he said or did the next day, and he doesn’t treat you well.

It’s time for you to get out of the relationship, attend some Al-Anon meetings for your help and support, and start looking for a man who is healthy. When people have problems that they don’t take care of, it’s often because they don’t want to.

Stop being wrong, and do the right thing. Break up, get help for you, and move on with a healthy, happy life.

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