[jim30]

[u]Well I am a bit confused about the situation with a girl aged 18 in my own school.. Well I am 18 too and we read in the same class![/u]

[b]Now this is my whole story from First to last and i hope to see a good light in your Answers Ms.April[/b]

I have a crush in my school and I’ve talked with her non-stop through text and
phone… I’m really confused with the
situation which is now standing in-front
of me now..! I’ve proposed her 4 months ago through text
and she replied “lets see what happens in future” ; the most awkward feeling of
getting this type of answer instead of
“no” or “yes”…

One day we both were traveling through same bus to our home and one of her guy-friend came and talked with
her.. I stopped talking to her at that moment cause i got a bit angry as both were laughing, playing and all but tough i was left out as a missing person, and when we all reached home she text-ed me and said “Sorry as I talked with him… I
didn’t like to talk but i had no way, he came up itself.. There Must not be any Misunderstanding between Us !”..
I replied “its okay”

[b]Next Scene :[/b]

One Day, I called her to come with me outside to do some shopping, but she refused, she said that she was not
allowed to come-out from her home.. To clear out , Actually after 1 week we met, i called her out to go out with me for shopping and she said she will come to meet me as her tuition courses were going on and by missing up that gap she could have come up with me! But i cancelled it as i was busy that day and maybe after a month I asked her out again and she refused as i stated above..

[b]Important Information :[/b]
She had a boyfriend and maybe 4-5 weeks before(the time before i proposed her), her boyfriend left her and she told me all those things because she finds me as her closest friend among the whole school.. She told me that he(her bf) was too demanded and she will never ever go back to his life again. She told me that she don’t want to be in any relationship until and unless she finds out true love for now…
I don’t know what is going on in her mind..

She can’t come-out with me | She is sending me mixed signals | I proposed her, and she told lets see |

One day i asked her what type of bf does she want, she replied “Tall, cute , caring and lovable like me..” yes, she told LIKE ME.. And she again replied “Your future girlfriend would be very lucky”..

Now after few weeks of my first proposal , I proposed her again and she said she thought it was a joke but now as she knew i was serious about her she told me “Hey, Don’t take me too serious, So, Close Your eyes and Remove all the fond of mine from today… If you want you can hate me from today!”
I replied “Do you think it is possible to do that??” She didn’t replied anything and changed that topic and i carried on… Now this World Of Internet Advices, My friends and all , Actually confuses me alot… Some says she loves you, carry on.. some says no, move on…. I just don’t know what to do..

[b]Next Phase:[/b]
We carried on our friendship and last moth i asked her,
“Hey XX, take my Promise and tell me.. Are you actually not interested in me or something else”
She Replied “Well Jim, I Promise… This year i want to be a single girl.. i don’t want any relationship now… I am not interested in Love-Relation now… I Promise”

I asked her “do you like me”, She Replied
“I like you very much as a best friend but not in another sense because i am not interested in any love-relationship now! but still i will say lets see in our relationship!!!”

I told her that 4 girls of from our Proposed me but i said “no” to them..(Well Its true and i am not faking it)

She Replied “Wow Jim, You can become Bf of everyone… great haha! I don’t know why but i am feeling really excited about you”
{This Excitement Confused me alot “Was it because i have choose to admire her only?? or Because she is happy because i will leave her by getting along with those girls?}

I got a bit angry after getting that message and
For 2 days I Didn’t messaged her so she text-ed me
“hi” “hello?” “oh i am sorry Jim, I will not disturb you again..You’ve got So Busy life.. Thanks for everything you gave me, Supporting me in every difficult stage of my life”

I just ignored her in school
And next day she replied

“I am missing you”

Then Again after 4 days has passed i started again And she told me “Hey Jim, Please be my Good Friend Forever,, Please don’t mind but sometimes i might treat you as my love”

Then we’re continuing till today…

I gave her fav chocolate today (14th feb)

Remember : She is Not an Outgoing girl… Its really hard to take her out, she rarely comes out of her house… Nor her girl-mates can make her come out….

She Told me “Please don’t love me, you will get a better girl than me” ; Now is this because of her low self-esteem??

And when i compliment her she says “Ahh dont tell like that,,, I am not beautifull.. I feel So ashamed when you say that”

To Make clear a bit more, many guys have proposed her but she said “no” To everyone except me……

She Often tells me “Please Dont ever leave me alone”

I don’t know what is going on her min……

I gave her a stuffed kitten and a pair of love birds just recently and she says “i love it”…. First she refused to take those birds as she told me that they might die in her hand, but i somehow convinced her and she promised me that she will take care birds untill her final breath..

Thanks for giving your time to read.. Your Help is really appreciated and sorry for my languange and spelling mistakes… For any more details, please ask me directly or reply in this thread (lol)…

Thanking you,
Jimon
India

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure what’s confusing…. it sounds pretty clear to me: You like this girl. She wants you to be her friend, but isn’t interested in dating you. My advice is to take yourself out of the friend zone, and move on. If a woman isn’t interested in dating you, then find someone who is! 😉

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