I think your parents want you to be married because they believe that’s what’s going to make you happy, and I don’t hear you disagreeing — but their timing is off. Why not tell your parents that you do want to marry, but you need a year to get over your breakup or whatever it is you’re wanting to get over. Even if you take six months, it’s a way of letting them know you’re just not ready. I have a feeling you haven’t opened up to your parents about what’s going on with you, and although you’re 28 years old, the relationship you have with them is more that of a teenager who isn’t open and honest with a parent because they trying to individuate without a lot of maturity or social tools. You’re old enough to have those grown up conversations. Marriage is too big a step to take without being ready, and having these conversations with your well-meaning parents will give them a better idea of who you are, how you’ll be successful, and what a more realistic timeline is going to be. Lastly, it’s not fair to any guy you date, to act like you’re ready for a real match, when you know you’re not. It’s going to be wasting their time as well as yours, and that’s not to mention energy, money and emotions. Have the conversation with your parents and tell them you’re not ready and why. 😉
