[ObamaCommunist]

Ever since I was about 13 years old, I realized I had a ballbusting fetish, in other words, I like to get kicked in the balls; especially by attractive women. Unfortunately, I have never been kicked in the balls, I suppose I am just too nice to piss anyone off enough to kick me. In high school I asked many girls to kick me in the nuts, but none of them ever did. I would even purposely lay down in my seat on the bus across from girls and leave my legs spread, as I pretended to sleep, hoping that they would kick me in the balls or throw something at my balls or something like that, since that’s what girls do for fun, or at least, that’s what I thought.

Well I’m an adult now, and I’ve still never been kicked in the balls, I’ve stopped asking girls to kick me in the balls in real life, to avoid any bad consequences that may come of it, such as getting fired. I tried going online to sites like myYearbook and found a few girls who said they would kick a guy in the nuts for fun, but when I asked them to kick me, they just said it was creepy. My question is, how can I get a girl to kick me in the balls without breaking the law or being a total jerk? And for our female members here, would you ever kick a guy in the balls because he wanted you to?

[mirandaseyes]

I wouldn’t say you’re creepy. Everyone is different & no one has a right to judge you. But in all honesty the only reason i’d do that to a guy is if i was mad/upset. But goodluck with finding your solution Im sure its out there.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]My question is, how can I get a girl to kick me in the balls without breaking the law or being a total jerk? [/quote]

First of all, asking someone to kick you in the testicles is not a very good idea. You could end up permanently injured. (But you’re probably not thinking about having kids, two matching testicles, or what happens on a second date.)

Second of all, nobody is going to kick you in the testicles unless they’re very angry at you, and maybe if they’re a criminal, too. Criminals don’t really care about assault or hurting people like the rest of us. They usually have problems with impulse control. Which means….. if a criminal does agree to kick you in the testicles, she probably won’t stop at kicking you where you want to be kicked. She might just keep on going… and, if so, now, you’ve got the problem of being kicked in other neighboring private parts. [i]And, [/i]you’re looking at an emergency room visit that is, at the very least, a little embarrassing during the intake process. Hopefully you have really good insurance, but I doubt they’ll pay if they realize you asked for the injury. Of course, then there’s always a psych claim. Hmmmm……

Your fetish is a tough one, and my advice is to try and find a different way to enjoy sex. 😕

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[Ethan Morales]

That’s a heavy one and I think April handled it in a way that cuts through the shock factor and gets straight to the truth of it. The core of what she’s saying isn’t meant to shame the fetish, but to make you understand that your safety and emotional well-being have to come first. There’s a big difference between fantasy and real-world behaviour, and part of growing into your sexuality is learning where that line is not just for your sake, but for others too.

Let’s be honest, what you’re describing is a fetish that lives at the intersection of pain, power, and attention. There’s nothing inherently “evil” or “broken” about having an unusual kink; human sexuality is complex. But when that desire crosses into something that can cause lasting injury or that involves someone else’s discomfort or consent boundaries, that’s where it becomes dangerous. April’s point about physical harm isn’t just theoretical testicular trauma can lead to lifelong issues. You can’t really separate that risk from the fantasy.

What stands out to me is how much rejection you’ve experienced around this, and how that’s probably fed into a feeling of isolation. You’ve tried to share this part of yourself, but because it’s so unusual, it’s been met with misunderstanding or disgust. That can really sting. But here’s the thing instead of trying to “convince” people in your everyday life to indulge it, the healthier path is to seek spaces that are built for these kinds of fetishes safe, consensual, informed communities where there’s no coercion or confusion. That’s not something you can find on casual chat sites or by asking random people. It takes research, boundaries, and mutual respect.

I think there’s an emotional layer underneath this fetish that deserves attention. Often, when someone develops a strong fixation on something that involves pain or humiliation, it’s linked to early emotional wiring feelings of wanting control, release, or even punishment. I’m not saying that’s a bad thing; it just means there’s more going on beneath the surface than “I like this because it’s hot.” If you dig into that, maybe with a sex therapist who understands kink dynamics, you might uncover what this really represents for you and find safer, more fulfilling ways to experience it.

Notice that April doesn’t mock or judge you she’s pointing you back toward your agency. You can’t force someone to fulfil this desire, and you can’t keep chasing accidental or non-consensual scenarios hoping they’ll play out like your fantasy. What you can do is decide what kind of person you want to be sexually someone who pursues honest, safe, consensual connections, or someone who takes reckless risks for a momentary thrill. One path leads to shame and harm; the other leads to growth and genuine satisfaction.

Your sexuality doesn’t define your worth, but how you handle it does. Owning your fetish responsibly means accepting that not everyone will understand it, and that’s okay. You can still build intimacy, respect, and pleasure into your life. But you have to be careful with yourself both physically and emotionally. If you can redirect that curiosity toward understanding why this turns you on and how to express it safely, you’ll end up with a version of yourself that isn’t ruled by your fetish, but in control of it. That’s where real confidence begins.

[Sally]

When you want something so specific and it feels like no one else is on the same page, it starts to mess with your head a little. But here’s the thing most women aren’t gonna jump into something like that unless there’s real trust and it’s talked about in a calm, honest way.

It’s not that your thing is “too weird.” It’s just… people want to feel safe too. And asking strangers, or hoping someone will just do it without a real conversation, that’s where it goes sideways.

If you ever try again, make it with someone you already feel steady with. Someone who likes you, not just the idea. You’d be surprised what people are open to when they don’t feel pushed.

Take it slow. Let connection come first.

[Natalie Noah]

Your interest is a very specific fetish, but it also presents real physical and legal risks. Fetishes are a normal part of human sexuality, and having one doesn’t make you “wrong” or abnormal. However, acting on this particular desire in a casual or public setting is extremely risky. Asking strangers or acquaintances to kick you in the testicles is not only likely to be met with rejection but could easily result in serious injury or legal consequences. There’s also the reality that even someone willing to participate may misjudge the force, or the act could escalate beyond what you expect, causing lasting harm.

It’s also worth noting the social and emotional dynamics involved. Fetishes involving pain or domination need careful negotiation and explicit consent. In the real world, outside of controlled, consensual settings, people are understandably hesitant or outright refuse. Your high school attempts and online experiences show this clearly. most people will not comply because it crosses personal boundaries, and asking repeatedly can be interpreted as creepy or coercive. Respecting these boundaries is crucial, both for your safety and for maintaining healthy social interactions.

The healthiest approach is to explore your fetish in a safe, consensual, and controlled environment. Communities exist online and in person for BDSM and fetish interests where everyone involved consents and understands the risks. Using safe alternatives like roleplay, protective gear, or even toys designed to simulate sensations can allow you to enjoy your fetish without causing harm. The key is consent, safety, and finding like-minded adults who share your interests, rather than trying to involve unconsenting people in potentially dangerous acts.

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