I don’t know how old you are, but I can tell you that if he’s got an interesting job opportunity that is the reason for his move, that’s a positive development. It’s much more promising to date a guy who’s excited about his work and his career, than one who’s glum or bored at work. The fact that his kids live near you, and he’ll definitely be back to see them, is a positive fact for any future dating between the two of you.
It’s fine to tell him you’ll miss him, and that you’re very happy for him to have a great career opportunity, but that you’re conflicted because you wonder how often you’ll actually get to see him with this move. Expressing your feelings is fine. He’ll make the decision that is right for the bigger picture, and that’s a positive step. A healthy guy is a lot more likely to be in a healthy relationship than a guy who makes the wrong decisions for the wrong reasons.
As for what comes next, I think you have to hang tight and see if he continues to want to date you. As much as you wish things were different, the reality is that life happens — even when you make the best plans. I do think it’s worthwhile to be open minded, and not close off because you’re afraid of getting hurt. But at the same time, be realistic. A move and a new job are big changes, and he may need a transition period to get back to dating you again — or not! Keep your options open, and since the two of you are not exclusive, you should continue to play the field. You don’t want to appear needy and clingy because that’s not attractive to guys. 😉 A woman who’s got her own life, and can miss him, but is still someone he should realize is a great catch for other guys, is someone he’s going to want to chase after and not let go. 😉
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