[Anonymous]

This girl and I that I slightly knew reconnected, and although we haven’t seen eachother in about 5 years, we started talking and we went out on Saturday. We spent 8 hours together. We talked for most of it and found out we have a lot in common with eachother. We flirted and even held hands at one point. At the end of the night she hugged me and said I was the best. Then texted me Thank you and said she had a nice time and we will definitely see eachother again soon. Next day more texting.

The next day I call her, we talk for a while, then she says she has to tell me something. Ugh. She said she thinks she likes her friend and doesn’t want to lead me on. After the very awkward conversation, we text eachother some more and she says she likes me but not in the way that i do. We talk some more and want to become friends because we did have chemistry with eachother. And today she texts me like nothing ever happened.

Now, I can take the hint if we didn’t have good time, but this girl and I (I thought) really had a great time. This is why I’m so bummed about it. I just don’t get it. If she didn’t like me at all, why did we spend so much time together? Or even go out at all. At one point I said I can take her home and she suggested we see a movie! I guess she just didn’t feel anything for me? I’ve never felt like this after a first date before. At this point I still want to tell her that after our date all I wanted to do was talk to her again.

I know I sound like a little kid, I just don’t know how to go about this. Should I bother trying to be friends? Should I tell her how I feel and ask her what happened because I thought we had a great time?

[Badfinger]

It’s hard to be friends with people you LUST after, and she’s sent mixed signals, possible head games, etc.
I would not contact her for awhile and see what happens and actually move on too.
Perhaps all she wanted was to go out with someone and was oblivious to your feelings?
Could be dating multiple people and someone suddenly asked for exclusivity or she now has chosen her man?
Relax, don’t have high expectations, and you are more likely to not get hurt in this process.
Best of luck to you!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The truth is that women like men who are not so available. The old saying about the nice guy finishing last is ABSOLUTELY TRUE!! Don’t show up as her friend when it’s not really what you want.

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