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Long story short (Edit, it is kind of long anyway).

I am 24, she is 21. Over the past couple of weeks I have been going on dates with this incredibly beautiful Russian girl. We really got along and have hung out about 5 times. We each do our own weekend plans, and as I try to hangout again, things get interesting.

On Monday, she texts me how something in her family has gone wrong, and she is very upset. She doesn’t tell me exactly what, but it has something to do with her mom. Naturally, I say okay, take your time, blah blah blah. Apparently it is really messed up.

Later that night, I break my ankle in a hockey game. This injury has rendered me virtually to the couch, until I have surgery, and then I am off my feet 1.5-3 months. We continue to text throughout the week, with her explaining that she is still very upset and not able to hangout, and she wants to go home. Now she is just saying that because how frustrated she has been with everything, so she “needs some time”. But nevertheless, she is still texting me and expressing an interest to hangout sometime in the future.

I am mainly confused because in our conversation, she talked about how straightforward she was and how Russian women are nothing like American women. So my instinct says I am being played like a fiddle, but my heart wants to believe that she is being truthful. I would just like to know what I say to her, and when/how I say it? I don’t think I have ever been so confused.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’ve never asked her out on a date, which is why you’re not getting clarity from her. 😯 If you want her to be clear with you, you have to be clear with her. 😉 If this is a woman you want to date, then you have to ask her out. If you just want to hang out, text and blur the lines, then expect a fuzzy response — which is what you’re getting and not liking. 😳 You’re in the driver’s seat. Decide what you want — and act! 🙂

[Sofia]

Ask April is also right that you are in the driver’s seat. If you want to date her, be a man and ask her directly instead of hiding behind a hangout.
Attraction only increases when there is a little tension. Don’t burden her by asking for clarity, but torment her with your ego. If she still doesn’t give you five after five dates, she is not coming to you when you are in pain; it’s not Russian straightforwardness, but cold-man pollution.

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