[amandalee20]

I’m having doubts about my current relationship because I’m no longer seeing him as the one in my future. I have been seeing my ex that I had dated in 8th grade. My question is… How do I tell my boyfriend that I no longer feel the same way I used too? Because this has been more than once that I have tried breaking up with him but then I would change my mind because I didn’t want to be alone… Now I have been seeing my ex and I already have cheated on him, not sex but we have kissed and I felt in that moment that he was the one I wanted in my life again because we have always kept in touch somehow and never seem to have lost that communication. We know we both can’t be together right now because of our financial situation and I live with my boyfriend and have no where else to go. But yes how would I handle this situation in the right way without hurting anyone because the damage is already done, and I dont want to make it anymore worse than it is.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

So, you’re both 20 and you’ve been with your boyfriend for three years — but you also live with him and say you have no where else to go…. which is part of why breaking up with him is going to be a problem for you. I get it. Sometimes people focus on relationship problems when their real issues are underlying. It sounds like you have a living situation that is a bigger issue than your relationship problems. 😕 I know you said that you have no where else to go to live, but I would suggest you reconsider that…. it’s not a good idea to stay in a relationship because you need housing. 😕 You’re basically trading love for rent. 😥 You can get a job, pay rent, get roommates…you have options! 🙂

So, deal with your housing situation and don’t sweep it under the rug and use it as an excuse to not break up with your boyfriend, when you’re not really interested in seeing him exclusively any more. The longer you wait, the more difficult this will be. Breaking up with someone is best done quickly and cleanly, like pulling off a band aid. Be clear in your words and your actions. If you say one thing and do another, you’re going to create drama. So just tell your boyfriend that you’ve met someone else and you’re moving on. Then, do it. 🙂

I hope that helps!

[Adem Lee]

You feel like ex is “the one”, no, he’s just an escape. You need to get away from your current boyfriend, so ex seems like a good option. Remember, someone who can’t be with you due to financial reasons will support you in difficult times?
Ask April absolutely right that your real issue isn’t the breakup; it’s your housing situation. Find a job, get some roommates, but don’t drag out a relationship just to keep a roof over your head. Don’t let the breakup linger; end it quickly and avoid creating any more drama.

[Member]

Posts