[blubelel101]

So me and my partner have been together for nearly 5 years and everything had been going great. However my mum passed away last Christmas and so this year has been a bit challenging. I’ve had bouts of depression and mood swings which can’t of been easy on him and i have since apologised and am now on anti depressants.
So the issue is a couple of days ago he said that he felt like we have drifted apart- I knew things had been tough but I didn’t think we had grown apart and I told him this, it was him who started to pull away from me. Since then he has said he still loves me to pieces, doesn’t want to break up, but he doesn’t know if he feels the same way about me any more. I am very confused because I still love him very much and don’t want things to end. My sister said its probably just the time of year, remembering what was happening last year and his stressed. I’ve asked him to go to the doctors, get some help like I did and things will get better and we will be back on track.
What do I do? I’ve contemplated over Christmas holidays having little contact with him, give him space to figure out how he feels, what he wants in the desperate hope that he will miss me like crazy and everything will be fine.
I’ve already lost so much I don’t want to lose him.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

My advice is that when he does contact you, you really try to win him over. Your reasons for pulling away and being moody and depressed make sense, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t feel neglected and hurt. Time to focus on him and your relationship. I don’t recommend no contact after five years in a relationship and one bad one because of your mother’s death. In fact, I recommend you try to make the lost time and affection up to him. 😎

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[anniesmith018]

[quote=”April Masini”]My advice is that when he does contact you, you really try to win him over. Your reasons for pulling away and being moody and depressed make sense, but that doesn’t mean he didn’t feel neglected and hurt. Time to focus on him and your relationship. I don’t recommend no contact after five years in a relationship and one bad one because of your mother’s death. In fact, I recommend you try to make the lost time and affection up to him. 😎

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This is great advice and thanks a lot for sharing with us..

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You’re very welcome! 😀

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