Got it! 🙂 Thanks for the extra information. It sounds like you admit that this is not more than a hobby for him — in other words, it’s not an addiction, and it isn’t interfering with his normal life. So the problem, then, is about you finding a way to be okay in the relationship, given his hobby — or, deciding you’re not compatible because of it.
Psychologically, you can process the fact that men are visual. They like to see beautiful women naked. And, life is competitive! These are reality facts, and while it may be disappointing, it’s much better to deal with reality than avoid it. 😉
Some of the things you can do to make your relationship better is to learn what he likes about these porn actresses — their looks, their behavior, their clothes — and you can emulate their outfits, their looks — as part of your “play” in the bedroom. Or you can make light of the situation instead of treating it like a dire situation. Making a mountain out of a molehill just draws attention to something you may not want to deal with or complicate. 😉
My advice is not to impose boundaries on him. Instead, after dating him a year, decide what you want in a relationship and if this relationship is meeting those needs. You’ll only be unhappy if you feel like you’re victimized or trapped. But if you look at the relationship as something you’d like to work out, but are open to seeing if it will or not, you’ll let go of your anxiety. 🙂
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