[Loz_03]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, but he cheated on me 10 months into our relationship. I loved him and wanted to be with him so I gave him another chance. The only problem is I feel really insecure, its not that I don’t trust him, I’m just worried he’s going to do it again or find someone else cause he’s sick of me being so insecure. It’s got so bad that I’ve been stopping him doing things that upset me, I don’t like him being around other people, talking to other people or spending time with other people, I don’t like him going out drinking unless I’m with him and I don’t like it but I can’t stop. I really don’t know what to do, can anyone help?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like even though he cheated on your after dating for ten months, you forgave him and he hasn’t cheated on you in over two years now. Try and focus on the positive. Not everyone who cheats is a chronic cheater, and if he had one indiscretion and you’ve worked it out and forgiven him, and he’s had “a clean record” for over two years since that time, I think you have to appreciate him for all that he’s accomplished.

Try spicing up your own relationship and making sure that you maintain it with gestures of love and romance. If you’re falling down on the job and the two of you have let your relationship sag, you may be missing the old spark you used to have, and immediately thinking the worst — when all your relationship needs is some routine maintenance work just like you’d give a good car! 😉

I hope that helps and you can focus on all that is good (because it seems to be a lot).

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