[Hollyrose]

So, there’s this guy I have known for about a year over WoW (an online computer game). 
We get along shockingly well since we have so much in common and very similar personalities. He loves to try and annoy me but I just end up mock raging – which he likes – or laughing non stop. I adore talking to him soooooo much and he never fails to make me smile. 
Before you ask, yes I am more or less 100% that it’d be like that IRL since I have speak to him on the phone (or whisper at night 😀). 
We have shared photos, too. He thinks I’m really pretty and I think he’s drop dead gawgess (even though he’s really self conscious which is cute). 
Oh. We were aware each other had feelings for the other before we did share photos. 
Imo, he’s like the perfect guy for me. However, we are both teenagers (he is 2 years older) with really strict parents. Therefore even though we’d love to meet each other IRL and discuss hugging each other, kissing, play fighting and playing pranks on each other, meeting would have to wait about 2+ years.
I am very sure he is in love with me from things he says (in text and spoken) and things he does when he’s in a sensible mood – which is only when one of us are in pain / we are discussing something serious.
When we were going to share photos, he was incredibly scared I would think he looked hideous and would stop liking him.
I realise I am rather young, though I am quite grown up for my age and do completely understand even if we met, it might not work out. But, I have a feeling it would and hey, we’ll never know till we try! 
Waiting to meet id not a problem for either of us, tbh. Years actually go super fast these days and before I know it, I could be able to meet him. We are also very determined people.

No, the problem isn’t that…
…):…
… There’s a girl in his class he’s known for 5 years and liked for 3. I do not know whether she likes him or not in that way which is what is worrying me.
Apparently he loves us equally, though he says that he thinks he likes me a bit more (though recently he’s been trying to talk to me 50 times as much – I’m not complaining though) but the distant just sucks.
I’m petrified that she’ll start to have feelings for him and he’ll go out with her qnd forget about me – without me having the chance to actually meet him.
I’ve tried talking to him about this – well, broken up and a bit subtlely – which is how I found out he likes us equal.
Here are some examples:
“I like you and her a fair bit. If it’s any
(insert fancy word he used which meant relief), I think I like you more.”
“well, there’s this really fun, awesome girl I’ve met over WoW and one I see every day in school.”
“who am I texting and who am I currently not texting?”

Once, when I felt absolutely …bleh… I asked if I should get over him or not he said: “): Holly, I really don’t want you to stop liking me or lose you.”

Tonight he’s told me “I’m sooooooooooooo stupid. I’ve managed to fall in love with two girls.”

I personally think he’s worth the frustration, pain and misery to wait for.
However, the fact that she’s there (though he hasn’t spoken to her for some time and I’m unsure if as he’s starting to love me more, he’s losing his interest in her a bit or not) and he likes her, makes me feel so incredibly jealous I cannot put it into words. It’s a shame, since she’s probably a lovely girl but I hate her guts just because he likes her.

I’m not entirely sure on what to do and I feel lost and depressed. ): i don’t know whether I can keep feeling … Hmm … Rubbish for another 2 years or not.
Do you please have any advice for me to deal with this mess?

*i dont feel rubbish when i speak to him, just when i think of the complex mess.

Thank you so much for taking your time and reading all that.  🙂

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re a teenager and you should get out of the house and meet boys in real life, not just on the computer. Two years is too long to harbor a crush on a boy you’ve never met in real life and your anxiety over his “cheating” on you with another girl he actually sees in his real life, isn’t healthy. She’s available for him to date and hang out with in real life — and you should be doing the same — with your friends who live in your neighborhood and go to your school.

The internet and online games are a great way to meet people, but they’re a terrible place to conduct an entire relationship. You’ve been online for way too long. Turn off the computer and go outside!!

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