[Anonymous]

Hey im a 16 year old guy and my story is quite long and complicated and ill try to shorten it as much as i can.

to put it simply, there is this girl i love. i have liked her for a long time (almost a year now) but i was always too shy to get to know her properly, and she was already with someone. Anyway this girl broke up with her boyfriend about 7 months ago. i thought best to leave it for a while till things settle. me and her had been sorta small friends for a while, and she started acting very flirty with me (although it was just friendly joking) which sorta gave me a bit of confidence to actually get to know her well. School eneded about 3 months ago and for the last 3 months i have been hanging around with her and other friends almost every day. we have grown quite close and she considers me like her 2nd best friend or something.

Thing is, this other guy ( who is one of my best mates) started to like her like her aswell about 2 months ago. he has known her for a bit longer than me and she had small feelings for him. but the honest truth of it , he is a dick. he treats his best friends like shit. he treats me like shit even though i do alot for him. he acts sexist and racist around her. He doesn’t really like her personality and often makes fun of her behind her back. He knew i wanted to ask her out, and he pretty much sabotaged any attempt i made to get close and bond with her by putting himself between us, or trying to make me look like some kind of creepy stalker whenever i attempted to talk to her or just generally making things awkward.

Also it seems me and her are like almost a perfect pair. We like similar things, have a similar sence of humor and have similar goals in life ( we both want to go travelling when we are older, move to another country perhaps etc) and this other guys has very little on common with her.

She knows i like her, but i dont think she realises how much she means to me. yesterday she decided to go out with this other guy. i have talked to her and told her how i feel and she says she just dosnt feel the same. I can sorta understand if she dosnt feel for me and i could live with that and maybe keep working on it. but its that he feels so strongly for him even though he acts like he dose. it really gets to me, and i guess it is kinda of jealousy thats getting to me now.

I really don’t know what to do. i love her, everything about her and id do anything to keep her happy. Please help me. and thanks for reading my long story =D I feel a bit better getting all this off my chest.

[Anonymous]

“but its that he feels so strongly for him even though he acts like he dose.”

i ment that she feels so strongly. probly alot of other typos in there aswell sorry 🙄

[Ask April Masini]

If your buddy is a dolt, she’ll figure it out eventually. Sometimes women have to figure out things on their own. Stay close to her, and let her know how you feel, and as soon as she figures out that this new guy isn’t as good as she thought he was, it’ll be time for you to make your move and ask her out on a date.

It’s normal to feel jealous and competitive — men thrive on competition! Now, you have to learn how to win. Sometimes that means getting the timing right, so when this new relationship she’s started ends (and it will), you step in.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go.

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[Anonymous]

[quote=”April Masini”]I hope that helps. Let me know how things go. [/quote]

Thankyou, yes it has helped and given me somthing to think about. I will definatly come back soon if need be 🙂

[Ask April Masini]

I’m so glad I was able to help! 😀

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