[emmajowhite]

So I met a guy on a dating app. We texted throughout the week before we met for dinner on a Friday. We talked for 2 1/2 hours and had the most amazing time. Honestly, I’ve NEVER felt a connection like a man like this before. He said he’d call me on our drive home, and we’d plan something soon. I never heard from him after that, and texted him Saturday morning, to see if he wanted to meet up again. I never got a reply to my text, and he never opened my snapchat, but he posted on his storyline on snapchat (so I know he saw it). I’m never aggressive or clingy, but I figured if a guy wanted to call and make plans, he would’ve replied to my text. I texted him again Sunday evening. Basically, I said,
“Hey! So i have no idea how this works, but I just wanted to be upfront. Just wanted to know if you were interested in getting to know each other more. If not, its completely fine, I promise my feelings won’t be hurt! lol
I was Just wondering because I couldn’t really tell of what your thoughts were after our night together”.
The second I texted it, I felt as if i was being wayyyyyy too clingy and aggressive. But then again, if he felt good about our time, he would’ve reached out. Right? SOOOOOOO confused. What do I do? Was I too aggressive or clingy? Most importantly, how do I fix it if he feels like I’m being too clingy and how do I keep him interested?

Signed,
Girl who is REALLY hoping this one works out

[emmajowhite]

By the way, I am 24 and he’s 26.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Don’t freak out. This is simple. You met a guy on an dating app, which means he’s meeting lots of other women. You had one date, and he didn’t invite you on a second one. Part of what you’re feeling is that you may have blown it with your behavior. You had a Friday night date. He said he’d call. You took the lead and contacted him Saturday. I would have recommended that you not contact him — guys want to be in charge, and when you take that away from them, they don’t feel as good about things as if they chase and conquer. 😉 In addition, I would have given him a week or more to get back to you. By contacting him within 24 hours of the date, when he said he’d call you, you did come across as a little pushy and needy. However… sometimes you really like someone who doesn’t want to see you again — and sometimes it’s the other way around. The beauty is that he hasn’t wasted your time. Sure, it would be great if he had said, “You know, you’re great but you’re not what I’m looking for,” but then life would be too easy! 😆 When a guy’s behavior doesn’t match what he’s said, you have to be the detective to figure out the clues and in this case, when a guy doesn’t ask for a second date, he’s not interested. With that knowledge, you get to move on and see if someone else out there is right for you. 😉

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